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That is actually what the OP asked. She did not want her child's picture posted on facebook. And, the controversy has been amazing...
I posted a link to another thread about taking children's pictures. Professional photographers are making points and discussing those same issues. They also mention permission and releases.
IIRC part of the OP's concern was that she saw the other mom on facebook on her phone. If the mom hadn't happened to have checked FB right then, would we even be discussing this?
It was the father of another child who played on the same team as my kiddo. He took photos and placed them on his FB page as well as his public photo album on Picaso (google photo album). I just googled my son's name one day to see what would come up and discovered them. Then I logged in to my son's FB page (with his permission) and found tons more. Yes, it was/is weird. I mean, if it were just my kid in the background that's one thing, but there were photos of just my kid, and just other people's kids, too. I don't know where he got all the kids full names, I'm assuming his kid told him or he had a list of the team mates or ?
Part of me wanted to go talk to him about it, but the other part of me decided that it's just the age we live in. This is how things are now. And I needed to just let it go.
On a somewhat similar subject - we also have a family member who does the online family tree thing who decided to put all our full names, birthdates, birth locations, etc. online for the whole world to see as well. I did contact that person since it was a relative and they told me that they couldn't change anything because they had forgot their password and didn't have access to that account anymore! That, IMO, is worse than the weird stranger dude taking and posting photos and names of kids who aren't their own thing. But only slightly.
It does seem a little odd for the dad to identify and post pics of kids on FB that he and his son don't know very well. He's probably just posting action shots of the team members in an attempt to capture what happened during the game.
I've seen those types of family trees posted on the internet and I can understand your concern. That does seem pretty invasive...
IIRC part of the OP's concern was that she saw the other mom on facebook on her phone. If the mom hadn't happened to have checked FB right then, would we even be discussing this?
We also wouldn't be discussing this if the OP hadn't snooped to see what Honey Boo Boo's mother had on her phone.
I think when your child is in the camera frame of someone's phone screen and you see this, you should as a parent, know why, and ask....especially if it is a stranger to you, as this person was to the OP.
Don't forget, put this in context... the real issue was whether this stranger was putting the OP's young daughter's image on a random strangers facebook.
But, as with all other posts supporting this Mom/Op
I'm sure there will be comments suggesting how they are in the wrong...even being called snoopy???
How hypocritical that it is "snoopy" to confront a stranger filming your child....But, NOT at all inappropriate for this stranger to be filming Your child.
I think when your child is in the camera frame of someone's phone screen and you see this, you should as a parent, know why, and ask....especially if it is a stranger to you, as this person was to the OP.
Don't forget, put this in context... the real issue was whether this stranger was putting the OP's young daughter's image on a random strangers facebook.
But, as with all other posts supporting this Mom/Op
I'm sure there will be comments suggesting how they are in the wrong...even being called snoopy???
How hypocritical that it is "snoopy" to confront a stranger filming your child....But, NOT at all inappropriate for this stranger to be filming Your child.
Because, the person was not a " stranger filming the OP's child" She was a parent, filming her own child ina public setting. The OP's child just happened to be there. That is hugely different than, as the title implied, an unknown person, walking into a dance studio, focusing the lense on a specific child and filming. Even if the parent in question puts the picture on FB, without a "tag" her dd remains "unknown child in the background". I don't see anything particularly alarming about that. Not to mention, I don't believe that you can "tag"a person who doesn't have a FB page...
I think when your child is in the camera frame of someone's phone screen and you see this, you should as a parent, know why, and ask....especially if it is a stranger to you, as this person was to the OP.
Don't forget, put this in context... the real issue was whether this stranger was putting the OP's young daughter's image on a random strangers facebook.
But, as with all other posts supporting this Mom/Op
I'm sure there will be comments suggesting how they are in the wrong...even being called snoopy???
How hypocritical that it is "snoopy" to confront a stranger filming your child....But, NOT at all inappropriate for this stranger to be filming Your child.
Well the person doing the filming in the OPs case was not a random stranger. She was a parent of another child in the class. And she was not filming the OPs child, she was filming her own child and the OPs child happened to also be in the shot.
Like I said....Thanks for proving my point.
So... If it is seen by so many of you..... as so profoundly upsetting to ask another parent not to include your child in their photos, and you are so offended that you are asked not to post someone else's child's pic on a social media site? Where would you draw the line?
Because, the person was not a " stranger filming the OP's child" She was a parent, filming her own child ina public setting. The OP's child just happened to be there. That is hugely different than, as the title implied, an unknown person, walking into a dance studio, focusing the lense on a specific child and filming. Even if the parent in question puts the picture on FB, without a "tag" her dd remains "unknown child in the background". I don't see anything particularly alarming about that. Not to mention, I don't believe that you can "tag"a person who doesn't have a FB page...
Right. And also, it isn't just about social media, because when the parent filming told the OP that she wasn't putting it on facebook, she was recording so her husband could see, the OP then expressed her concern that the husband was a sick pedophile. So the whole social media argument regarding that particular situation is irrelevant. The mother explained to her that she WAS NOT putting the video on any social media site, and that wasn't good enough. I think I could live with a parent not wanting their child on facebook, even though I don't see the big deal myself. What I would not concede to is being told NOT to take photos just because their child happened to be standing next to mine. Tell your child to move then.
Like I said....Thanks for proving my point.
So... If it is seen by so many of you..... as so profoundly upsetting to ask another parent not to include your child in their photos, and you are so offended that you are asked not to post someone else's child's pic on a social media site? Where would you draw the line?
She wasn't asked to keep the image off of social media. She was asked to stop recording.
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That, IMO, is worse than the weird stranger dude taking and posting photos and names of kids who aren't their own thing. But only slightly.
