Children vs Technology (daycare, games, parents, smart)
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So it's apparent that everyone wants the latest technology. Even my eight year old declares to everyone, "I'm getting an iPhone for my birthday." Almost everyone around her, even kids younger and older, has the latest iPad, iPod Touch, notebook, tablet and many others at their disposal. It's even weird to me when my younger sister, age 11, has 2/3 apple products and has a tendency to use both (switches from one to the other).
What I need to know is what do you tell your child, when they're actually demanding that you get them something techie?
I know this is a no-brainer, but my daughter had caused her own demise of playing our Wii a few weeks ago. She passed on the bus to go to daycare and jumped on the bus home. When she got there, no one was there and started walking to daycare. She was picked up by a stranger that goes to her school and this stranger did call the police and was escorted to daycare. This was all because she wanted to play the Wii earlier.
It's things like above that prevent me from actually getting something like an iPad or Tablet. She has also brought her DSi to school and played during school/recess time. She's very irresponsible and just wants to play video games. Some how, I wish I could restart her life without any games or technology (other than TV and maybe a computer).
She's 8 years old, not responsible, and you are the parent. Tell her no. Simple as that. Demanding anything like that in this house would be a sure fire way to not get anything.
I don't remember what age our son was whe. He got his iPod touch. Certainly not 8. But he bought it himself.
I would like to add, we are not anti technology in this house. Absolute opposite. But there were also limits set.
She's 8 years old, not responsible, and you are the parent. Tell her no. Simple as that. Demanding anything like that in this house would be a sure fire way to not get anything.
I don't remember what age our son was whe. He got his iPod touch. Certainly not 8. But he bought it himself.
I would like to add, we are not anti technology in this house. Absolute opposite. But there were also limits set.
Yes this.
Smartphones were available to them when they could afford to pay for the data plan and understood that the contract was for 2 years. They had to show they could pay the entire 2 years. That's called helping them to understand what all goes into decision making besides the "I want" part.
ETA know that this will not be the last time you will get the "I want.....but EVERYONE ELSE has...but you're so mean...." argument. How you respond will set the tone for future discussions. Be calm, consistent and confident in both your decision and your place as a parent to make that decision.
Last edited by maciesmom; 03-09-2013 at 08:07 AM..
I agree with what is already posted above. I have one child not too concerned with gadgetry and video games, and one obsessed, so I know how tough it can be. We have set a rule of no video games during the week. If school and grades have gone well that week, then we allow it on weekends. As for the I want, yeah, just say "no", you can't worry about how other parents spend their money. Our kids got hand-me-down iPhones converted into iTouches. Any other gadgetry they have had to save up for and buy themselves.
Oh, and the sneaking home to play video games would have resulted in a long video game hiatus over here.
My 10 year old has a mp3 player and a desktop computer. (She goes to online school, so she really needed her own computer).
My 7 year old has a tablet.
Neither one is irresponsible with them, and I don't regret buying them.
That's great that it works for you.
OP's 8-year-old willfully gets on the wrong after-school bus and then walks around town alone, getting in cars with people she barely knows. She doesn't sound ready, and frankly neither does OP.
BTW, are there no adults at the school who can get her on the correct d*mn bus?? Hasn't this happened before, OP?
What I need to know is what do you tell your child, when they're actually demanding that you get them something techie?
My kids don't get to DEMAND that I buy them anything. They can ask nicely, but if they demand something they most certainly will not get it. You are the adult. If you don't want her to have one then say no.
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Originally Posted by mitopcat
I know this is a no-brainer, but my daughter had caused her own demise of playing our Wii a few weeks ago. She passed on the bus to go to daycare and jumped on the bus home. When she got there, no one was there and started walking to daycare. She was picked up by a stranger that goes to her school and this stranger did call the police and was escorted to daycare. This was all because she wanted to play the Wii earlier.
In my house this would be a "death penalty" offense as far as the Wii was concerned. I would pack up and put in the closet for good. Of course after a few months you could bring it out and try again but it would months, not days or weeks before it would be brought out again.
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Originally Posted by mitopcat
It's things like above that prevent me from actually getting something like an iPad or Tablet. She has also brought her DSi to school and played during school/recess time. She's very irresponsible and just wants to play video games. Some how, I wish I could restart her life without any games or technology (other than TV and maybe a computer).
If my child brought their DSi to school and that was not permitted that would cause the same reaction as I described above. Plus-if my child demands anything from me they don't get what they demanded. Period.
So it's apparent that everyone wants the latest technology. Even my eight year old declares to everyone, "I'm getting an iPhone for my birthday." Almost everyone around her, even kids younger and older, has the latest iPad, iPod Touch, notebook, tablet and many others at their disposal. It's even weird to me when my younger sister, age 11, has 2/3 apple products and has a tendency to use both (switches from one to the other).
What I need to know is what do you tell your child, when they're actually demanding that you get them something techie?
I know this is a no-brainer, but my daughter had caused her own demise of playing our Wii a few weeks ago. She passed on the bus to go to daycare and jumped on the bus home. When she got there, no one was there and started walking to daycare. She was picked up by a stranger that goes to her school and this stranger did call the police and was escorted to daycare. This was all because she wanted to play the Wii earlier.
It's things like above that prevent me from actually getting something like an iPad or Tablet. She has also brought her DSi to school and played during school/recess time. She's very irresponsible and just wants to play video games. Some how, I wish I could restart her life without any games or technology (other than TV and maybe a computer).
Well as I'm on the 2 android phone (after a iphone 3gs) have one ipad 2, one nexus, and already planning my next ipad purchase this year. . .
hand-me-downs work great!
I would put a tablet above a TV any day of the week. . .I mean games are twice as good for you as any television show
its all moderation.. . .that is the key.
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