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I never said I want him to stay home. I'm just saying that she'd stay with me because of him. She wouldn't want him to go through any kind of struggle or pain so she'd stay with me.
You've deluded yourself about your wife and her motivations. Even now, you're still deluding yourself about your wife in the hypothetical situation. You lack understanding on a lot of things she does and say, then ask us why, why why... And yet you guys are together in therapy. Are you guys even working on your marriage, communication issues? It doesn't sound like it at all. But of course, your wife won't change because she's waiting you to just throw in the towel and fully shut up and put up. Either you want to or you don't--- DECIDE.
And you, OP... why are you avoiding therapy for yourself? The underlying contempt you have for your wife and her actions and feeling so guilty about it; trying to one-up/outgame your wife; the backpedaling; living with this fantasy of your wife and totally ignoring what she is; delayed, if at all, rightful and fitting response/actions. How can you even begin to understand your own wife if you're not comfortable dealing with anything yourself?
If you really had no problem with the Hawaiian vacation, you should not have brought it up as a mark against your meany widdle wife. But no, now here you are... again... Deluding yourself about this Hawaiian trip. Trying to justify it even though you've used it as a mark against her as she's still making these ridiculous demands/wants.
Late night drive with him was really cool. Just drove around listening to the Eminem Show and the Marshall Mathers LP. Definitely have to do that more often.
As everyone has seen, when I spoil her, I successfully buy her affection. Not that I enjoy doing that I'm just being honest. Umm Maui, probably, because a) it's a cool hotel that I want to go to and b) I've never been to Hawaii. In my mind, I'm no so much giving into her as much as I am going to have fun with him and maybe his GF if it checks out with her parents. Definitely have to think about the condo.
Let's be really honest here. You are not going to change and neither is your wife. She is going to continue to be a selfish spoiled brat and you are going to continue to take the easy way out and indulge her to keep the peace. You do not have what it takes to stand strong when the going gets tough. (sorry but it's the truth)
There is nothing more we can say to help you because you won't help yourself.
Last edited by Jaded; 08-06-2013 at 12:39 PM..
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Well, Irish, you have over 1200 posts to read through when issues arise with your wife and son. I hope this thread serves you well even in its closure. There is a lot of good advice here.
BUT, as this post's title states...it's time this saga came to an end...on this forum at least.
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