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How would you feel if your 15-year-old son was talking to his 20 to 30 year old female martial arts instructor?
I was just about to ask this question - would people view it the same way if the genders were reversed? For instance I'm in my lateish 20s, I'm friendly with a teenage boy (10 years younger than me), we chat on facebook sometimes, does this set alarm bells ringing off in people's heads or do they view it differently?
I was just about to ask this question - would people view it the same way if the genders were reversed? For instance I'm in my lateish 20s, I'm friendly with a teenage boy (10 years younger than me), we chat on facebook sometimes, does this set alarm bells ringing off in people's heads or do they view it differently?
Many people do view it differently.
In my state several years ago there was a teacher who continually pursued a 13-year-old boy, even from jail.
Although many were outraged, there were a number of public comments along the lines of, "Attaboy!" congratulating the child on his "good fortune" for being "schooled" by a beautiful teacher.
Although many were outraged, there were a number of public comments along the lines of, "Attaboy!" congratulating the child on his "good fortune" for being "schooled" by a beautiful teacher.
Indeed. It plays into old stereotypes that only girls should be protected while boys should be encouraged to go out and sow their wild oats, and that ANY experience is beneficial.
I was just about to ask this question - would people view it the same way if the genders were reversed? For instance I'm in my lateish 20s, I'm friendly with a teenage boy (10 years younger than me), we chat on facebook sometimes, does this set alarm bells ringing off in people's heads or do they view it differently?
Is this question/thought a joke? It should be. The only person that would ask this would be a woman with no kids. Men know it's different as do most women know it's different.
Although it's very different, if the situation was exactly the same (older martial arts teacher talking w/ younger boy) I wouldn't like it.
Is this question/thought a joke? It should be. The only person that would ask this would be a woman with no kids. Men know it's different as do most women know it's different.
Although it's very different, if the situation was exactly the same (older martial arts teacher talking w/ younger boy) I wouldn't like it.
But why is it different? It shouldn't be. There shouldn't be a double standard.
Is this question/thought a joke? It should be. The only person that would ask this would be a woman with no kids. Men know it's different as do most women know it's different.
Although it's very different, if the situation was exactly the same (older martial arts teacher talking w/ younger boy) I wouldn't like it.
I don't. I would want to be aware of the relationships my children are having with other grown ups. Period.
I don't. I would want to be aware of the relationships my children are having with other grown ups. Period.
At some point, this ends, though. You should know every single thing that happens in the life of your three-year-old. And most things that happen to your nine-year-old. Once they hit high school, though, that lessens a lot over time. At some point, you just have to trust them. The problem isn't so much with that as it is with trusting other people who might be interacting with your kids. Keeping up the lines of communication and being vigilant are really the only ways that you can know for sure what's going on with teens, and even then, you still probably only know half of it.
At some point, this ends, though. You should know every single thing that happens in the life of your three-year-old. And most things that happen to your nine-year-old. Once they hit high school, though, that lessens a lot over time. At some point, you just have to trust them. The problem isn't so much with that as it is with trusting other people who might be interacting with your kids. Keeping up the lines of communication and being vigilant are really the only ways that you can know for sure what's going on with teens, and even then, you still probably only know half of it.
Absolutely.
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