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ETA - and why is it a big deal that young children notice (or remark) that males and females look different? They DO look different. Is this supposed to be some kind of secret?
Totally agree here. Noticing how their family members differ, and how not a big deal that is, is the first step towards teaching children to treat other with differences, especially those who look different, with dignity and respect.
Totally agree here. Noticing how their family members differ, and how not a big deal that is, is the first step towards teaching children to treat other with differences, especially those who look different, with dignity and respect.
Yeah...I'd think a child making a comment or otherwise noticing the difference, is a perfect time to have a discussion on differences.
Qoute: gwillyfromphilly Either way it would probably be the best solution to not do it at all.
DONT DO IT. I'm telling you. Not good.
Generation, after generation, after generation of children for centuries have seen their parents naked in the sauna in my country. If it was something bad then I think issues would have arisen by now....
What's the big deal if the girl see's a man at the urinal though? He's just weeing and if she's going in with her dad then she's most likely seen a man wee before so it won't be anything new to her. I remember my dad taking me into the men's changing room when he took me to swimming lessons, I must have been about 7 or 8, didn't scar me.
I agree, parents do seem a bit easier about sending a girl in by herself as opposed to a boy.
Because even SEEING a penis is going to emotionally scar american girls:roll eyes:
Americans as a group are wildly prudish, which is ironic as we have some of the most sexually active teens. I often wonder if by making ourselves so sexless to our children, we have made at all the taboos with sex a stronger way for them to act out.
Generation, after generation, after generation of children for centuries have seen their parents naked in the sauna in my country. If it was something bad then I think issues would have arisen by now....
And not to mention in the US it was not that many generations ago where families all shared one bedroom. National prudishness among families is a new tradition.
Because even SEEING a penis is going to emotionally scar american girls:roll eyes:
Americans as a group are wildly prudish, which is ironic as we have some of the most sexually active teens. I often wonder if by making ourselves so sexless to our children, we have made at all the taboos with sex a stronger way for them to act out.
I don't know, possibly although I think Finnish teens are pretty sexually active too and the general attitude towards sex is very relaxed.
I have seen my parents naked, I am not scarred by it. My grown kids have seen us naked, they are not scarred by it. Do you know why? Because it isn't a big deal if you were raised to understand that a body is just a body and its parts are not shameful or only sexual. Breasts are for feeding children, it is why they have evolved. If they are an enjoyable part of your foreplay repertoire so be it, but so are many other erogenous zones that we have not been conditioned to think they should be covered at all times. My kids say mine and many of their other relatives breasts as part of feeding children. They saw as be naked in an authentic way, changing clothes, going from the bathroom to the bedrooms, and so on. All of these are all natural non-sexual situations in which people are naked. And that is ok.
If you raised your kids like that, fine.
But you can't tell me you know about their sexual lives and what they are or are not affected by. Who knows how it really affected them in their own bedrooms. You just have no idea what their fetishes/kinks/turnoffs are now that they're adults.. and how much of it was or was not influenced by seeing you and papa run amok in the nude. (Depending on the extent of it.) Maybe your son gets off on incest fantasies and you have no idea about it. Maybe he'll walk around naked, taking dumps in front of your granddaughter when he has her alone with him. Who knows. That's not something I really want to be influencing in my own kids though.
I err on the side of caution with children's minds.. they are too easily influenced. And while nudity in itself is NOT a sexual act; it's very easy for their minds to interpret it like that once they get closer to their pre-teen years. I'm not taking that risk. I don't want memories of my coochie stewing around in their brains.
And not to mention in the US it was not that many generations ago where families all shared one bedroom. National prudishness among families is a new tradition.
Yeah exactly.
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DONT DO IT. I'm telling you. Not good.
