16 Year Old Runs Away And It Is OK?

[Spuggy]

Originally Posted by KevK

I know the girl somewhat. She is a friend of my daughter and she is a nice girl and everything I know about her is OK from the times she has been to our house. I have met her mother once and the mother seemed OK too. My daughter said they have been fighting for a long time over stuff that typically teenagers and parents fight over. The girl ran away one other time to her father's house a few years ago but came back on her own after a weekend. I do not know the friend she is staying with at all but accoridng to my daughter, the friend's mother said that she felt like the girl was going to end up on the street where bad things happen to girls if she did not let her stay. So I guess she is between a rock and a hard place. I am just glad the girl chose her and not my house because to be honest with you, I am not sure how I would have dealt with it either. But I think I would have tried to reason with the girls mother and got her permission first. I can see why she might be a bit not happy about it.

Or require that the mother and daughter go to family counseling. Basically the friends mother is undermining the relationship of the 16 year old's mother that could have long term damage and teaching her that hand,ing conflict is to run away and cut off .

[lkb0714]

Originally Posted by Spuggy

Or require that the mother and daughter go to family counseling. Basically the friends mother is undermining the relationship of the 16 year old's mother that could have long term damage and teaching her that hand,ing conflict is to run away and cut off .

The thread is nearly 10 years old. Said 16 yo is likely 25 now and it is a moot point.

[Snior]

my son ran away to his father house and now he want me to drop the child support. I think that not right when I had the boy for 16 years. that hurts I love my son and I do want him to be happy some time we have to do things that we don't want to do. Being a mother is challenging.

[ClaraC]

Originally Posted by Snior

my son ran away to his father house and now he want me to drop the child support. I think that not right when I had the boy for 16 years. that hurts I love my son and I do want him to be happy some time we have to do things that we don't want to do. Being a mother is challenging.

Can you go back to court? If your son is no longer living with you, it does seem that you should be paying child support to the dad instead of him paying it to you.

[redguitar77111]

Why is "running away" seeing as such a horrible thing just because they haven't been on Earth for 18 years?

[ncole1]

Originally Posted by redguitar77111

Why is "running away" seeing as such a horrible thing just because they haven't been on Earth for 18 years?

Define "running away". A lot of states can't charge anybody with harboring a runaway unless the runaway is actually missing (i.e. their family and police do not know where they are, or that they are safe).

In a few states it is actually illegal to run away, and in a few others, the police can forcibly return a minor. In such cases, it does seem there is an infringement on the youth's civil rights. But then again, what government in history doesn't oppress people who lack the right to vote? The government is totalitarian if you are under 18, not a democracy.