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I do however think there's a significant difference between first time parents in their 40's/50's and parents who've spent most of their adult lives raising children and essentially have to start over and do it all again. That's got to take it out of you.
Good point. I'm 20 years in with six more before my youngest turns 18, and that's not counting that our middle child will need care for the rest of her life. I couldn't start all over.
Many times women in their 50s and older develop sleep problems. Good sleep is critical to being able to handle raising a family. Think 3 kids and a sleep deprived, menopausal mother...not a good situation.
There are a lot of mothers in their 50's with teens. Most of them get through it just fine and for many, laudably. Because when you have kids that's what you do.
So, what's the cutoff for childbearing, according to the naysayers here who don't think a woman in her 50's can handle a child?
25? 30? 19, just to be safe? I mean, at 33 you're getting perilously close to being in - gasp, horror - menopause when the child is 18. 40 is obviously out of the question. Perhaps we could institute some kind of mandatory sterilization beyond 35 to make sure we don't put the poor children through the hell that is a 55 year old parent.
And after that I mean women just lose the plot and might as well be euthanized for all the good they are to anybody. Right?
There are a lot of mothers in their 50's with teens. Most of them get through it just fine and for many, laudably. Because when you have kids that's what you do.
So, what's the cutoff for childbearing, according to the naysayers here who don't think a woman in her 50's can handle a child?
25? 30? 19, just to be safe? I mean, at 33 you're getting perilously close to being in - gasp, horror - menopause when the child is 18. 40 is obviously out of the question. Perhaps we could institute some kind of mandatory sterilization beyond 35 to make sure we don't put the poor children through the hell that is a 55 year old parent.
And after that I mean women just lose the plot and might as well be euthanized for all the good they are to anybody. Right?
If a woman is in her 50s and parenting a teenager, then she had kids in her mid-30s. She did not start around 40+ and is 50+ with a child in elementary school. It's not the same - false equivalency.
You are spreading misinformation that is not sound. Because of outliers like you, many women postpone having children due to misinformation or slanted information devoid of the biological realities and medical considerations of life. So many women thought they would be able to conceive post-35 with no problems, only to find that is not always true.
If a woman is in her 50s and parenting a teenager, then many had kids in their mid-30s. She did not start around 40+ and is 50+ with a child in elementary school. It's not the same - false equivalency.
So you're saying it's tougher to have a child in elementary school while experiencing menopause than having teenagers while in menopause?
If a woman is in her 50s and parenting a teenager, then she had kids in her mid-30s. She did not start around 40+ and is 50+ with a child in elementary school. It's not the same - false equivalency.
You are spreading misinformation that is not sound. Because of outliers like you, many women postpone having children due to misinformation or slanted information devoid of the biological realities and medical considerations of life. So many women thought they would be able to conceive post-35 with no problems, only to find that is not always true.
I am sure they are capable of talking to their doctors and making their own decisions about such an important life altering choice. Women aren't stupid.
Janet Jackson might soon become the new symbol of the rise of the 50-year-old mom.
The 49-year-old singer/songwriter, who turns 50 next month, announced to fans in a video on Twitter on Wednesday that she would be delaying the second leg of her "Unbreakable" world tour because she and her husband are focused on family planning.
Good point. I'm 20 years in with six more before my youngest turns 18, and that's not counting that our middle child will need care for the rest of her life. I couldn't start all over.
Wow...how interesting...we're roughly similar. 29 years in for me, nine more until my youngest turns 18, middle son will need lifelong care.
If I were pregnant right now, I am certain I would have an abortion. However, that possibility is off the table as I had a tubal ligation after my third child. I knew I didn't want to be pregnant after 40, I was cutting it close as it was and I was so tired, and we just knew he was going to be our last.
Have deleted many off topic, sarcastic, attacking ..not to mention chat room type posts.
Stay on topic and stay within the TOS rules...pretty please
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