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The last Pride I was at was Lutheran grandma-level tame. I'd take a child to that no problem. There are definitely some events that are way too NC-17 for a kid, though.
I said if she wants to have her friends around that's one thing but I really don't want her heavily involved with the culture. My wife got upset and said I was being a bigot. Am I wrong here?
There is a whole lot of middle ground between her friends being "around" and taking a kid to a notorious gay pride parade. Have you no conception of that? And why do you only want her friends "around" and not part of your lives like any other friends?
If you want to keep the gay friends away because they are gay, then yes, you are a bigot. Your daughter might be incredibly involved in the gay culture because she might turn out to be gay. What will you do then?
You aren't a bigot, or a homophobe. You don't want your child exposed to blatant sexuality.
We lived in a gay resort area and that is where we raised our kids. They grew up with more exposure then most but I only objected to inappropriate sexual displays in public. I didn't object to costumes or to them having a great vacation. It was our town, not theirs and they were welcome to stay and play but not to be vulgar in front of our children. That goes for anybody. It is not a gay thing.
Taking a little kid to an event that encourages sexuality at all and depicts it is not age appropriate. It is also political and maybe the baby is going to be a conservative and not liberal. The views may not reflect those of the baby.
It is good to expose children to diversity, but they don't have to wave the rainbow flag until they are old enough to decide for themselves.
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I am like the OP...kinda neutral on the subject. I don't understand why can't parents just "let their kids decide on their own" when they get to a certain age of comprehension? Why does the wife insist on engulfing their young child in the LGBT culture. That is kinda "forcing" it on them. That is like a white parent saying they want to their child to "embrace"in the black culture so they will grow up being tolerant AND acceptable of ALL races...so they take them to a Black Live Matter protest..smh. Just "let it happen naturally" while teaching them to be acceptable...you don't have to FORCE it on them...especially at such a young age.
My wife and I are having our first child in January it will be a girl. We get along well but since she has been pregnant we have been talking a lot about how to raise our daughter she was a surprise. Anyway we agree or compromise on most things but there is one that has become a particular issue.
While my wife isn't obviously gay or even bi a lot of her friends are and she always goes to gay pride parades to show support. I am pretty neutral on the subject and am nice to her friends and everything but don't go to any parades or anything. However my wife told me she wants our daughter to basically be engrossed in the whole thing. Talking about taking her to all the gay parades and such. That really concerns me I have watched lots of videos and seen pictures of these parades and honestly a lot of it seems really gross and not appropriate for a small child. Just check out the folsom street fair :eek
I said if she wants to have her friends around that's one thing but I really don't want her heavily involved with the culture. My wife got upset and said I was being a bigot. Am I wrong here?
You are not wrong but being married and a parent is not about being "right". You will want to show you're wife you completely considered her viewpoint (rather then just looking online for people who agree with you) and GO to one of these event so you can see and discuss what happens there firsthand.
I am like the OP...kinda neutral on the subject. I don't understand why can't parents just "let their kids decide on their own" when they get to a certain age of comprehension? Why does the wife insist on engulfing their young child in the LGBT culture. That is kinda "forcing" it on them. That is like a white parent saying they want to their child to "embrace"in the black culture so they will grow up being tolerant AND acceptable of ALL races...so they take them to a Black Live Matter protest..smh. Just "let it happen naturally" while teaching them to be acceptable...you don't have to FORCE it on them...especially at such a young age.
Tolerance does not happen naturally, it is a skill that must be practiced. That does not mean that parades are the way to expose kids to the lgbt community, but exposure to different people is way more effective at teaching tolerance than waiting until they are a certain age.
I've never been to a gay pride parade, so I don't know how sexual things they do in public, but our nations as a whole don't let our kids watch X-rated movies or porn, so wouldn't they be seeing similar things at a gay parade?
If so, I say NO, she shouldn't be subjected to this at a young age before she understands sexuality.
The description of the soon-to-be mom sounds like a woman who wants a daughter as a cool, hip accessory she can show off to her cool, hip friends in her cool, hip world, so they will think SHE is cool and hip. Poser.
IMO Not for nothing, knowing or having a cordial relationship with all kinds of people whether straight, gay, black ,white etc. is good for a child growing up to know diversity. But to expose them to an openly sexual situation and which begins to influence there way of thinking, is not ok. It is not ok to prance around in public in such a sexual manner no matter what your sexuality is, period! And to PURPOSELY expose a child to this is completely ludicrous....
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. Just "let it happen naturally" while teaching them to be acceptable...you don't have to FORCE it on them...especially at such a young age.
