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I think my first step will be just learning to say no, because, right now, they( she especially) are allowed to eat whatever they want in whatever quantity
We just had wild alaskan salmon for dinner. Marinated with lemon juice
Husband made white rice (I know there is healthier rice out there)
drank our vegetables- juiced them. 1 carrots, 1 celery, two kale leaves, purple cabbage (excellent to digest food so easier to loose weight)
I don't like the taste of vegetables so plug my nose and drink them. My parents were very obese so I went the opposite direction and developed osteoporosis from an eating disorder (anorexia) by the time I was in my twenties.
And old man in his late sixties rode up on a bicycle asking me to ride. I could ride two blocks but LOVED IT. So had to get healthy by default in order to ride down those hardcore trails. He was in GREAT shape. Thank God for him. I then ate right, by default so did hubby. Then he started cycling when the bike shop guys would show up and we'd ride. Jealousy probably but it worked Gotta replace it with something they like. If I'd try to eat (akin to someone trying not to eat) I would have great difficulty. But the disorder just disappeared on it's own.
There is a really fat lady here who rides bikes. She is perfectly healthy, all her stats she says. I believe her. She rides daily for 2 hrs or so up many hills. She probably eats a lot but she is still ok
Again Good luck to you. We are going cycling now because I have a major health issue that requires vigorous exercise to control. Odd yes, and I am hoping it works that way or I will need to see a doctor or ER within the next few days for another anemia test because I cannot seem to stop bleeding. Problem is I broke my ankle so I quit riding but gotta get back to it or will end up with a blood transfusion soon. I am loosing so much blood I can barely leave the house longer than an hour. Had to miss work. First Doc said maybe it's menopause. Pap smear was fine. Dunno. But Know from experience that hardcore exercise can stop having a cycle. So I am trying that. Take Good care.
I second this. When I lost weight it was because I changed my entire lifestyle. It has to be about getting and staying healthy overall.
I really think your family as a whole should seek professional help. This problem seems to be about much more then over eating. Being almost 100 pounds overweight is not needing to just diet. It is most likely a symptom of a larger problem.
I think my first step will be just learning to say no, because, right now, they( she especially) are allowed to eat whatever they want in whatever quantity
Good luck with random stabs in the dark. You need a whole new life program. This entire household is dysfunctional and needs an overhaul.
I was a fat kid; part of it for me was defiance of my overbearing mother. She didn't want me eating too much, so I snuck around. (why doesn't spellcheck recognize "snuck"? Oh, dear, it's likes "sneaked"--that's awful!)
I'm still fat. I'm seeing a therapist to get to the bottom of my issues.
Perhaps a little therapy would be helpful for the OP's family, too.
Excellent! Quite a few of us didn't get all the skillz we needed growing up and have to get help with them as adults. It's excellent that you care enough about their health to do this.
I think another problem was that we both downplayed it and just saw her as being, " a little chubby" for quite awhile before just recently waking up and realizing that our daughter could wake up 300 pounds soon.
You seem really hung up on numbers and size of clothing. That's not the point. The point is to be healthy and live the fullest life possible. If an otherwise ordinary young person is getting winded during everyday activities, that's not healthy and has the potential to restrict her choices. She needs to know that whatever shape or size she she is, she's equally valued and loved, but that taking care of yourself is part of being a responsible person. You need to get the whole household on a healthy eating plan - not a diet, not something restrictive, just quality foods in proper quantities - and get into enjoyable exercise. If your kids are super out of shape no exercise is going to be very enjoyable at first, so ease into it and build up stamina. If they like the outdoors it's easy enough to start with gentle walks or biking and gradually up distance and pace and ruggedness of terrain. Maybe game-ify it with something like Pokemon Go or Geocaching to up the interest level. Send them out on a trail and tell them they can't quit until they've taken cameraphone snaps of X Y and Z things. Whatever - the idea is that exercise is enjoyable, not arduous. Personally I can't do repetitive exercise without an audiobook or the like to keep my mind engaged.
Your goal isn't a number. She doesn't need to be on a deadline. Your goal is a healthy active lifestyle and good habits that will last her entire life. (The whole "cheat day" idea is a major red flag for me as I read this, as is trying to stuff the poor kid into a school uniform that doesn't fit, as though shame is conducive to good adolescent choices.) Model it. Teach it in a positive way. Be a parent and an educator.
Also, I would def see a doc sooner rather than later to rule out thyroid issues or similar.
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Gotta replace it with something they like. If I'd try to eat (akin to someone trying not to eat) I would have great difficulty. But the disorder just disappeared on it's own.
