Should I let my gay son sleep over at his gay friends house? (party, legal)

[djacques]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

if you had a girl and she wanted to sleep over with a guy you would not allow it even if 17.
the same rule applies here.

I absolutely would allow it. And yes, the same rule applies.

[djacques]

Originally Posted by jimboburnsy

I fail to see how this is any different except that there isn't going to be any estrogen involved to mitigate the testosterone.

It's different in only one respect, that of potential pregnancy, although that is not an unimportant respect.

He's going to do what he's going to do, but he needs to know what is Ach Ja and what is nicht, nicht with his parents. You can't make it okay to do things that are against your rules simply because you have no control.

Fine, I agree. I'm just saying that it's a stupid rule.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by djacques

Of course you should. At his age it's stupid for him not to have a boyfriend. (And yes, I would have the same opinion about a straight kid and his girlfriend, although there would obviously need to be the additional emphasis on effective contraception.)

I had a BF at 17, but my parents sure as he** didn't let me stay at his house!
No, I don't think the sleepover should be allowed.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by overworked_mom

this is where it gets tricky I belive my son when he says that he and the other boy are just friends so if I say no it seems like I am saying that he can't go becuse his friends are gay and if they were straight then I would be okay with it. as for the parents I have met them and as far as I know they would be home during this night.

There was a thread on this a while back. Gay daughter and gay girl friend. Pretty much everyone said no sleepover. Same as if we were talking about straight boy and girl.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by djacques

True. But give me one good reason they shouldn't be having sex. I can think of good reasons not to stick screwdrivers in light sockets.

STD's

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by renovating

What exactly is the problem if they are just friends? Why would you assume something sexual would happen?

If your son wasn't gay would you have a second thought about letting him sleepover?

Seems a lot of posters are equating gayness with promiscuity, an unfair stereotype for this teen who probably already feels alienated.

Talk to him, express your fears to him, hear his reaction. Than make your decision.

I don't think so. I think we are equating it with straight opposite sex teens.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by djacques

I absolutely would allow it. And yes, the same rule applies.

At what age would you allow your kids to have sex in your house, with your consent?

[djacques]

Originally Posted by rkb0305

At what age would you allow your kids to have sex in your house, with your consent?

Whatever age the law allows. In my state, that would be 16.

[djacques]

Originally Posted by rkb0305

I had a BF at 17, but my parents sure as he** didn't let me stay at his house!
No, I don't think the sleepover should be allowed.

Sounds like a case of sour grapes to me.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by djacques

Sounds like a case of sour grapes to me.

no, just attentive parents. As much as I hated it when my mom told me what was "proper" and what wasn't, it stuck with me. You are suggesting letting the law decide your morals. That is never a good idea. Sounds like a cop out.