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Originally Posted by okpondlady
... But I will say the worst was when my oldest stole a piece of gum from the store and I took her back and made her apologize. Yes, she was upset and crying, she had gotten caught and KNEW she was in trouble. The clerk says "It's ok honey..." At that point I probably wasn't very nice when I said, "No it is NOT ok. She knows better and please don't TELL her stealing is ok." I am sure she wasn't intending the stealing was ok.. just trying to comfort her.
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That happened to me. I can still feel my heart sink when the clerk leaned over with a big smile and said, "Oh, that's all right!"
As for the "excuse me"s and other mannerly bits we have to instill in usually unwilling little ones, let's look at it from a different perspective. It would never occur to anyone here to bump into someone and not say, "Excuse me." Not a one of us would let a nicety go by without a "Thank you." Most of us remember little, if anything, of what our parents went through to make it happen, so each display of good manners on our part seems to spring from genuine remorse or gratitude. Nope. We're not polite because we're good; we do it because our long-suffering parents drilled it into our thick little skulls again and again and again and...
Back to the present. I bet that poor woman's fake smile was about all she could manage as she watched yet another round of instruction go down the drain.