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Science disagrees with you. Should we also ban single parents from raising children?
No, I'm just saying statistics show that children grow up best with married parents. From a personal experience, I would agree with that. My parents divorced when I was only 4 and I know what it's like to be raised with divorced parents. Having to deal with my mom and dad arguing and bickering over child support and when my dad could see me, etc is exhausting. My mom also struggled financially (my dad did too, but I live(d) with my mom.) and it was difficult dealing with financial stresses. I changed a lot after my parents divorced, in bad ways, not good. I guess I grew up okay, but I would have grown a heck a lot better if my parents were married. As I was growing up, I was always wishing my parents would make up and get remarried, my friends who also have divorced parents felt the same way.
That's why I want to find the right girl and be married when I have children and when I raise them. I don't want to let my kids grow up in the way I did and dealing with all the messes I dealt with.
If children grow with an exclusively single parent, as in just the mother or the father without ever seeing the other parent again, I would imagine this could cause children to long for the other parent.
Marriage is nothing but a piece of paper. Plenty of dysfunctional families with married parents.
Bad parents are the problem, not divorced ones. Your parents couldn't let there dislike for each other be set aside. Marriage means nothing. Doesn't mean you're a good parent. Doesn't mean you even love your spouse. Means you're married.
Maybe w should let homosexuals marry. That'll fix the problem.
I could care less about gay people adopting kids if they provide them a good home and treat them with love and raise them right. Homosexuality is great for population control! I'd rather have two successful gay men or women raise 3 kids than some illegal mexican family trying to raise 3 on minimum wage.
My gosh i actually agree with you on something. surpirse surprise. I rather the same thing happen, too many kids, are just a number in the system. These poor kids just want a loving hime, don't think they care truthfully after never having a home or love, if the two people from the same sex are raising them. I much rather see that, then these kids abused. Many children are abused today, and treated very cruely, from their own parents who are straight.
No, I'm just saying statistics show that children grow up best with married parents. From a personal experience, I would agree with that. My parents divorced when I was only 4 and I know what it's like to be raised with divorced parents. Having to deal with my mom and dad arguing and bickering over child support and when my dad could see me, etc is exhausting. My mom also struggled financially (my dad did too, but I live(d) with my mom.) and it was difficult dealing with financial stresses. I changed a lot after my parents divorced, in bad ways, not good. I guess I grew up okay, but I would have grown a heck a lot better if my parents were married. As I was growing up, I was always wishing my parents would make up and get remarried, my friends who also have divorced parents felt the same way.
That's why I want to find the right girl and be married when I have children and when I raise them. I don't want to let my kids grow up in the way I did and dealing with all the messes I dealt with.
If children grow with an exclusively single parent, as in just the mother or the father without ever seeing the other parent again, I would imagine this could cause children to long for the other parent.
There are all sorts of dysfunctional families, including those with married parents. Fact of the matter is the most important thing for a child is a loving home environment.
Aside from that by banning gays from adopting or single parents from adopting you really aren't going to have more kids being adopted into homes with a mom and dad, the only thing you are going to do is have fewer kids adopted in more kids being raised in foster care.
I think even you can admit being in a loving home with one parent or two same sex parents is surely better than either a non-loving home or foster care.
Thats a shame!! thats like saying they are better off in the system, where,( lets be honest have you seen some of these foster homes??) too often the adults are doing it just for a check in the mail, then to be with families who would love them instead and Sooo, if a man fathers children, and later lives his life as a gay man, does this automatically means hes off the hook for financial support?? Or do all of his parental rights get taken away?
No, I'm just saying statistics show that children grow up best with married parents. From a personal experience, I would agree with that. My parents divorced when I was only 4 and I know what it's like to be raised with divorced parents. Having to deal with my mom and dad arguing and bickering over child support and when my dad could see me, etc is exhausting. My mom also struggled financially (my dad did too, but I live(d) with my mom.) and it was difficult dealing with financial stresses. I changed a lot after my parents divorced, in bad ways, not good. I guess I grew up okay, but I would have grown a heck a lot better if my parents were married. As I was growing up, I was always wishing my parents would make up and get remarried, my friends who also have divorced parents felt the same way.
That's why I want to find the right girl and be married when I have children and when I raise them. I don't want to let my kids grow up in the way I did and dealing with all the messes I dealt with.
If children grow with an exclusively single parent, as in just the mother or the father without ever seeing the other parent again, I would imagine this could cause children to long for the other parent.
When I read what you've written, it seems that your parents did not get along. While it's nice to think that if you're parents had married, they would have worked things out, it's also unrealistic. People who are forced to live together who don't get along don't magically start to get along. They actually start to hate each other. I know of children whose parents stayed together "for the children's sake", and almost everyone of them wish that their parents had gone their separate ways instead. Even when the bickering was kept minimal, the parents were terribly unhappy, and though the choice was made by the parents, the children feel the burden of the years their parents endured an unhappy relationship.
Thats a shame!! thats like saying they are better off in the system, where,( lets be honest have you seen some of these foster homes??) too often the adults are doing it just for a check in the mail, then to be with families who would love them instead and Sooo, if a man fathers children, and later lives his life as a gay man, does this automatically means hes off the hook for financial support?? Or do all of his parental rights get taken away?
Just to make clear the court struck down the ban, so gays will be allowed to adopt.
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