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I still to this day don't understand when a black American is unhappy,they run to other races.
What about dating a black man or woman from another culture,like Africa or the Carribean?
I still to this day don't understand when a black American is unhappy,they run to other races.
What about dating a black man or woman from another culture,like Africa or the Carribean?
Sometimes you just meet someone and you fall for them and race just isn't an issue. They make you happy and they enrich your life so much that something as superficial as color or ethnic background means nothing.
Nice couples Cali!
All of them,I wish them the best of luck.
Question to the OP: if you are biracial,they why are you sticking your nose in black people's business???
Next comment: it isn't just happening with black couples...its happening to most racial groups.
It seems there is a push by the media to promote IR marriage.
Think about this.....when was the last time you saw an Asian couple on Tv? To my knowledge,I can't remebmeber. I only see white man/Asian woman couples.
There was an asian couple in the tv show Lost. Also, there's this movie I love so much called "Joy Luck Club" that featured them. Same thing with Asian dramas/soap operas, etc. But it's the media...it's like there's really no point in even caring about what they put out. They're feeding more to the majority, which in the U.S is Caucasians so they tend to show things that appeal that race more. The images of interracial couples, etc, I think, is more for them to see that they can branch out. It just so happens to be affecting minorities in this country as well.
I still to this day don't understand when a black American is unhappy,they run to other races.
What about dating a black man or woman from another culture,like Africa or the Carribean?
The short answer is that they wanted to be with people of other races all along, and just don't want to admit it to themselves, so they conjure up all of these ridiculous excuses as to "Why they just had to be with this or that race". Black Americans who want to form relationships, marriages, families, with other Black people will generally have no issues dating Africans or Caribbeans.
In all fairness, there are all types of silly porn sites that thrive on these types of subjects. THere are porn sites where black guys have group sex with white girls as payback for slavery etc etc. Its porn and its meant as entertainment. My opinion on these sites doesnt matter at all, but I know that there are many sites that most would find offensive in one way or another.
It's more than "silly porn." I just got back to the computer, and I did some googleing, found out I previously mentioned the wrong porn site (although that was still based on white the male/black female thing--the name of it ought indicate what it's supposed to say about black women). I say it's more than "silly porn" because I came across one discussion site where apparently some black young lady brought this up--she said she went to tears seeing some of the stuff.
One was images of a black woman eating watermelon and a number of other things I won't get into. I've seen that one before that the person was bringing up.
Anyways... the site with the Confederate flags I was speaking of had this spoken about on a different site speaking about that site, I'll edit out the name of the site and some of the words too:
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You know [deleted] is [deleted] up when the entire site is about Black girls get covered in [deleted] by Rednecks wearing shirts with confederate flags. The story lines are straight forward; black chicks finds her black man [deleted] a white chick and wants revenge and ends up getting [deleted]...
I understand porn is for entertainment (it's essentially voyeurism) but there are some racial, social, cultural issues going on in the U.S. that it has certain racial themed porn absent in the Brazilian porn industry. U.S. porn has the same or similar themed stuff for Latinas too. And while Brazilian porn has the S&M stuff, and even markets itself as porn of "exotic" women et cetera... they don't have a domestic market of white men specifically targeting black women in that same kind of racially charged way.
But the racial porn thing--with the Confederate flags--I'm just saying further evidences this ABC News story assumptions about race and dating and marriage. And intersects with those Black-American women on the ABC News show reluctance to marry white men and other non-black men. Not because they think they will be treated like the women in that genre of porn spoken about, but because they have this idea black women should marry black men and black men should marry black women. The two races become sexually, "forbidden fruit," like in the Garden of Eve, to each other.
Or so it seems to me.
I also know--from personally meeting women like this--that you have black women that will strip and prostitute with white men (won't marry them) but will reject black men ABC News regards as non-eligible marital material. There is a philosophy and ethics here I do not agree with. Stripping and prostitution are now seen as less degrading than being associated intimately with an impoverished black man. Likewise... several white men placing watermelon over the head of a black woman for public exhibition.
This is why I chose the images of impoverished Brazilians (but it was of kids--I was to lazy to search more to find adults). As I reject a lot of the philosophical and moral views contemporary Americans have about poverty and people. Being poor is not a disgrace. It is not a moral failing necessarily. It does not give value to who you are intrinsically. It is merely a state. Perhaps of your own fault or not. Perhaps temporarily or permanently.
And race does not necessarily have to be a huge wall. I understand ethnic differences can be obstacles, and it's understandable. Ethnic Black-Americans will share some cultural views and perceptions of the world that a white American normally won't share with them. Those divides can cause small or big problems at times.
But aside from that we be stuck in just one direction, allowing few solutions for our problem. The problem for these women being marriage: a life long companion.
I think what the OP is really trying to say is why do Americans tend to view everything with racial lenses, why is the media perpetuating this bias and who really stands to gain from this state of affairs. However by using the example of black women dating which is a topic done to death, it just seems like the OP is adding fuel to the fire instead of generating any useful discussion.
Yes, that's partly what I was saying.
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Originally Posted by calipoppy
I really could care less who "your" people are or how you decide to classify yourself. However, you are pulling from an obscure, miniscule segment of the Black female population and attempting to apply the logic behind their motivations to the whole. It really is beyond silly.
The FACT remains that MOST BW will marry BM. And MOST BM will marry BW.
Why is the reality of this so disturbing to you?
I'm aware most Black-American women marry black men. And most Black-American men marry black women. I don't have a problem with that. I stated that earlier. If a Black-American woman wants to marry a black man I'm pro-that. If she wants to marry a rich-black man then I'm fine with that too. If she wants to only marry a black man that's rich and tall then I'm fine with that too. If she wants to date a black female "stud" then I'm fine with that.
But my point was how does one bring resolution to their own dilemma?
Or put it this way... I think cocaine and heroin should be decriminalized (as it is in Portugal, where no addict is even forced into rehab but it's only offered to them). And if one wants to use cocaine I'm fine with that. But if they get hooked on cocaine and don't want to keep having some of the negative consequences of that addiction keep going on, the question is how do they resolve that dilemma. If they follow the example of the women in ABC News video they keep doing what they always have done. They keep thinking the way they always have.
As I stated, I'm not telling anyone how to or who to marry. I have a male relative that lives romantically with a man. I'm not sure that's the choice I would make and I probably don't agree with it. But he's still my family and he's still a good man. Likewise, it is up to each Black-American woman to decide who she will date and/or marry.
But you are right that the percent of Black-American women (out of the Black-American female population) that rise to such professional levels is rather small. Most the Black-American women in Milwaukee so far as I can tell seem to be on welfare. I'll see about 1 or maybe 5 black women in a science lecture hall of over 300 students. I'll have a science lab of 15 or 20 students and be the only black student in the lab. The racial minority women will be Asian. And most the women white. Needless to say, just about all the men will be white.
But more black women seem to be climbing such professional ladders than black males.
Nice couples Cali!
All of them,I wish them the best of luck.
Question to the OP: if you are biracial,they why are you sticking your nose in black people's business???
I don't know, why don;t you ask your President.
I'm Black-American. Ethnically. And paid my dues with that.
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Next comment: it isn't just happening with black couples...its happening to most racial groups.
It seems there is a push by the media to promote IR marriage.
Think about this.....when was the last time you saw an Asian couple on Tv? To my knowledge,I can't remebmeber. I only see white man/Asian woman couples.
There is no push to promote interracial marriage. The people behind choosing the ABC News story for national news were only carrying out an old tradition going all the way back to the porches of the Antebellum South. It's why some black guy with a master's degree today will have to hear some black woman his age that only has a GED berating him about how "black women are doing it," because she watched something like the ABC News program showcasing a miniscule number of black women, by whom, she must think means her. Like American citizens telling other nationalities "what we've done." Exactly who is "we"? when in fact you (the plural use of you) didn't do any of those things but some other individual American did.
But even if they were promoting the coupling of different races of people together, why would that be so wrong? Did someone in the United States tell you it was wrong?
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