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On the one hand, if a white gal from Alabama were to state that she doesn't want to date tube-top wearing NASCAR watching rebel flag waving Billy Bob, I'd understand. But if she were to state that every last white guy from the South was nothing doing, even if he was an art historian who has lived in Manhattan since age 12, that would be more than a little weird. And that doesn't even touch on the race thing.
"I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist."
"This trend has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with patriarchy and cultural sexism and a lifestyle I grew up with and want nothing to do with anymore."
"I date white men because the term "model minority" grosses me out. I date white men because it feels like I'm not ostracizing myself into an Asian ghetto and antiquated ideas of Asian unity. I still see myself as a minority. And with that, pretty soon comes connotations of "outsider." And I don't like that."
1. Will you date a self-proclaimed racist like her? Why or why not?
2. Can you be able to date a person who hates and disrespects her own culture and her own people? Why or why not?
3. Do you think American culture is a white culture? For a minority woman (or man), the only way to be accepted by American culture is to date white people?
Who cares, people can date whomever they want to date for whatever reasons.
I have never replied to any one of my posts. However, I am doing this as a public service.
Do not! Do not! Do not! EVER google the phrase "nose porn". I clearly did not think this one out. Sadly, if I just thought about it a little, I would probably have anticipated just what exactly would come up.
Seriously, you cannot unsee this. I need a shower, many in fact. WTF is it with some people?
Okay, this made me loudly guffaw. You know I have to google it now. I just have too!
"I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist."
"This trend has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with patriarchy and cultural sexism and a lifestyle I grew up with and want nothing to do with anymore."
"I date white men because the term "model minority" grosses me out. I date white men because it feels like I'm not ostracizing myself into an Asian ghetto and antiquated ideas of Asian unity. I still see myself as a minority. And with that, pretty soon comes connotations of "outsider." And I don't like that."
1. Will you date a self-proclaimed racist like her? Why or why not?
2. Can you be able to date a person who hates and disrespects her own culture and her own people? Why or why not?
3. Do you think American culture is a white culture? For a minority woman (or man), the only way to be accepted by American culture is to date white people?
I would offer that anyone who dates or marries someone based on race, rather than character, is an idiot. There are people of all races who are superlative individuals...............and then there are those who are less than stellar.
One should not limit one's horizon to a specific race.
As a northern midweterner, I have been a little surprised to find that mixed race couples (regardless of what mix they are) are not looked favorably upon in parts of the US. I am really puzzled as to why this is important or makes any difference.
"This trend has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with patriarchy and cultural sexism and a lifestyle I grew up with and want nothing to do with anymore."
She's not rejecting the race as such, she's rejecting the culture that many in her race embrace. Good for her to have the courage to reject what in many ways is a "backwards" culture, particularly in regards to misogyny. More people should try it. Try rejecting things like the ghetto or "gangsta" culture for blacks, the "I'm a victim and deserve something" culture of white liberals and the culture of violence and abuse of women embraced by far too many Muslims and this country would be a far better place.
"I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist."
"This trend has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with patriarchy and cultural sexism and a lifestyle I grew up with and want nothing to do with anymore."
"I date white men because the term "model minority" grosses me out. I date white men because it feels like I'm not ostracizing myself into an Asian ghetto and antiquated ideas of Asian unity. I still see myself as a minority. And with that, pretty soon comes connotations of "outsider." And I don't like that."
1. Will you date a self-proclaimed racist like her? Why or why not?
2. Can you be able to date a person who hates and disrespects her own culture and her own people? Why or why not?
3. Do you think American culture is a white culture? For a minority woman (or man), the only way to be accepted by American culture is to date white people?
1. I really don't date...pretty much ever...so not real applicable.....
2. Not all cultures are equal. Regarding currently widespread cultures, I think the west, including Australia, has created some of the best modern cultures. I like the fact that she does not view Asians as her people. I like white people who don't view white people as their people. I'm rather neutral regarding members of a race who do view members of their race as their people, due to confusion, but I am definitely supportive of people who don't view members of their race as their people.
3. American culture wouldn't be the same without additions from minorities. I do not think the only way to be accepted by American culture is to date white people. I think much of our culture is growing to consist of a view of you will be liked more if you care about what others think less.
"I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist."
"This trend has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with patriarchy and cultural sexism and a lifestyle I grew up with and want nothing to do with anymore."
"I date white men because the term "model minority" grosses me out. I date white men because it feels like I'm not ostracizing myself into an Asian ghetto and antiquated ideas of Asian unity. I still see myself as a minority. And with that, pretty soon comes connotations of "outsider." And I don't like that."
1. Will you date a self-proclaimed racist like her? Why or why not?
2. Can you be able to date a person who hates and disrespects her own culture and her own people? Why or why not?
3. Do you think American culture is a white culture? For a minority woman (or man), the only way to be accepted by American culture is to date white people?
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I'm not sure she's a racist. I just think she lacks self-esteem and has bought into the whole anglo package.
THAT SAID, I have trouble dating Spanish speaking men and opt for Anglos because among Spanish speaking men I think there is still a bit of that patriarchy. What's the difference between xoJane and me? Simple. While I am afraid of ending up with a Latin macho sort of guy, I will NOT attack them publicly, and particularly not in front of non-Latins. Why should I? My dad, brother, cousins, uncle, etc. are men like that, and we love one another intensely, and they are kind. They are part of me, my family, my blood. To speak ill of them publicly is like speaking ill of oneself. Better to address them personally about the little macho thingie.
BESIDES, anglo men can be incredibly sexist! OMG!!! Look at all the men's rights groups, abusers, and all those other white whackos and nutjobs who hate women.
Just my opinion! Other opinions may vary. Ok, I'm ready. Throw the book at me. lol
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Ok, I'm ready. Throw the book at me. lol