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Because she ultimately has the choice to participate in unprotected sex or not (in consensual sex, obviously). She can just say no, or make sure she consistently uses birth control to protect herself. Plain and simple.
Voluntarily participating in unprotected sex INVITES the possibility of pregnancy whether wanted or not.
so can he if he doesn't want to be a father.both can say no thats why a conversation prior is important,get on the same page
I already know the answer as I’ve experienced it, and I got a vasectomy and my wife had tubal ligation, and there’s no comparison with using a condom and not using a condom, which a big reason men and women don’t like to use them.
When it breaks there’s no squishy feeling which is what I said. Falling off is a different story, however, there’s still a big difference in how it feels without a condom.
As a woman, I agree, there's a HUGE difference between how sex with or without a condom feels for both. But I suspect that's dependent on how sensitive some women are. It sounds like some of the women in this thread are kind of numb and can't feel the difference. We're all different. C'est la vie.
Yes, you say that, and then you whine over and over, "but how come everybody blames the man?"
You're not making sense. I was answering your repeated "how come everybody blames the man?" insistence. Well, how come everybody "blames" the woman? Because she could have prevented it. And it is the same for the man and his "blame."
How this is difficult to understand is beyond me.
Actually, I think it’s funny how everyone blames the man, especially since the man can’t get pregnant, and women are still having sex with men that don’t use birth control and then cry about unwanted pregnancy.
I never asked why everyone blames the man. Blaming the man is simply in so many posts.
Yep, both should be responsible, but when that doesn’t happen, only the woman can pregnant and they’re often left holding the bag.
Actually, I think it’s funny how everyone blames the man, especially since the man can’t get pregnant, and women are still having sex with men that don’t use birth control and then cry about unwanted pregnancy.
I never asked why everyone blames the man. Blaming the man is simply in so many posts.
Yep, both should be responsible, but when that doesn’t happen, only the woman can get pregnant and they’re often left holding the bag.
Ding! Ding! Ding! Identified the problem with the stompy, stompy "but what about men?!?" whiny temper tantrums, right there.
Its just so crazy easy to get pregnant, especially when one is young, healthy, and sexually active. It only takes one fleeting moment for it to happen.
I got pregnant at 20. I had a serious boyfriend I was living with. We had gone to visit his sister that day and I was taken in by her adorable 2 year old. That night we got home and I said "Why don't you get me pregnant?"
My boyfriend said "Are you sure? I know my sister's kid was really cute and adorable but are you sure that's what you want?"
I said "Yes."
We baby danced.
The next day, my hormonal daze cleared. I realized I made a mistake. I was sitting in my college classes, thinking "Do I really want to give up my future, drop out of college, raise a baby, being financially unstable? " Etc.
I called my boyfriend and said, "I am getting the plan B pill."
I got it and took it.
A couple weeks later found out I am pregnant. Called my mom, sister. They all urged me to abort. I trusted their advice though my hormones were raging telling me to keep my baby. My sister told me she thinks the bodies hormones do this. Its nature. But we must take mind over matter and make a more conscious choice, rather than go off instinct.
I called for the appointment, though I was sobbing so hard I could barely speak. The girl on the line didn't take notice. I suspect they are used to people very emotional during that process.
That was about 20 years ago. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't have made a different choice. I did what was the best thing to do under the circumstances. Though it was hard. I am sorry for my unborn child. Perhaps it was selfish of me to put my own needs and wants before theirs, and trust me I have felt guilt and shame. But at the end of the day I still believe I made the best choice.
I was shocked how easy it was to get pregnant.
That's how mistakes happen. Our bodies were designed to do this. Nature is powerful.
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