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Originally Posted by in_newengland
Adam Lanza, the kid who killed all those school children in Newtown CT, had Aspergers too. That's what they called it. I don't know if that's what made him kill people.
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Some famous criminals were left handed. Left-handedness did not make them kill anybody.
Most Aspergers do not want to be like everyone else. They call normal people "neurotypical", and are often disgusted by the social behavior of such people, who seem to them to be affected land artificially play-acting in order to conform with social norms. Aspergers would rather remain alone by themselves than to pretend they are someone they are not in order to be socially accepted. They do not know how to be successful phonies, because they don't know how to read body language or guess what other people think or want, and this makes them conspicuous. Look around you in a social setting and think about how phony everybody is. Aspergers see it from that perspective all the time.
That's not because they like being alone, but because they feel uncomfortable in social situations. The have the same need and desire as anyone else, and want to be loved and desired and respected and admired. But it takes a lot of tiring effort to navigate among neurotypicals. Think of it as being a foreigner who doesn't understand English very well. The foreigner still wants to be admitted to society, but it is very hard and tiring to function in a language that is not known well, among others who can use it effortlessly, and after a while you just want to go away by yourself and relax with your thoughts in your own language. Conforming to social norms requires a constant mental effort, just like conversing in a foreign language, and it's tiring.