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Old 02-08-2014, 12:55 AM
 
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it is hard to be adult with acne no woman will date you and there is no cure for it. i hvae tried everything by now and the dermatologists cant help me. dietitians couldnt help me either there is no hope and its making me feel very depressed. how do i get over the fact that i will have bad acne for the rest of my life.
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Old 02-08-2014, 08:33 AM
 
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it is hard to be adult with acne no woman will date you and there is no cure for it. i hvae tried everything by now and the dermatologists cant help me. dietitians couldnt help me either there is no hope and its making me feel very depressed. how do i get over the fact that i will have bad acne for the rest of my life.
Therapy. I don't know if you will have acne for the rest of your life since most people get rid of acne with generic versions of Accutane. However most likely you will have scars and there is usually nothing you can do about those.

It seems you have a skewed view of reality and think every woman thinks the same way. Of course some women will never date men with acne but quite a few will. Your mind is just choosing to concentrate on those women who will never date you.
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Old 02-08-2014, 03:26 PM
 
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Therapy. I don't know if you will have acne for the rest of your life since most people get rid of acne with generic versions of Accutane. However most likely you will have scars and there is usually nothing you can do about those.

It seems you have a skewed view of reality and think every woman thinks the same way. Of course some women will never date men with acne but quite a few will. Your mind is just choosing to concentrate on those women who will never date you.
My Dad is 61 and still has fairly severe acne, he has done three rounds of Accutane during his 30's-40's but the acne always returned. An aggressive strain of acne can last through a persons entire life, even to the brink of old age. Many aggressive cases of cystic acne are isotretinoin resistant also.
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Old 02-08-2014, 05:42 PM
 
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it is hard to be adult with acne no woman will date you and there is no cure for it. i hvae tried everything by now and the dermatologists cant help me. dietitians couldnt help me either there is no hope and its making me feel very depressed. how do i get over the fact that i will have bad acne for the rest of my life.
Can you grow facial hair?.......That is what Lincoln did.
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Old 02-08-2014, 08:59 PM
 
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Therapy. I don't know if you will have acne for the rest of your life since most people get rid of acne with generic versions of Accutane. However most likely you will have scars and there is usually nothing you can do about those.

It seems you have a skewed view of reality and think every woman thinks the same way. Of course some women will never date men with acne but quite a few will. Your mind is just choosing to concentrate on those women who will never date you.
the reality is that every woman turns me down and i haven't found one over the years that will go out with me. and my standards aren't that high.
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Old 02-08-2014, 09:35 PM
 
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the reality is that every woman turns me down and i haven't found one over the years that will go out with me. and my standards aren't that high.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Have you been put on Accutane yet? it's not a cure but it's certainly a good remission effort.
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Old 02-09-2014, 02:11 AM
 
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Have you been put on Accutane yet? it's not a cure but it's certainly a good remission effort.
that's the only thing i haven't tried yet. dermatologist said he'd prescribe it for me. i am considering trying it but here are some reported side effects:

Increased levels of triglycerides and cholesterol in your blood
Headaches and brain swelling
Damage to skin and mucous membranes Premature epiphyseal closure
Development of inflammatory bowel disease
Pancreatitis
Increased liver enzyme levels and liver damage
Disturbances of your central nervous system
Hyperostosis (excessive bone growth) and bone demineralization
Damage to your eyes including cataracts
Erectile dysfunction
Hearing impairment
Neutropenia, agranulocytosis, and rhabdomyolysis (blood disorders)

that makes me wonder if it would be a good idea to go on it when i hear so many bad stories online... not sure how bad the risk is.
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Old 02-09-2014, 10:16 AM
 
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that's the only thing i haven't tried yet. dermatologist said he'd prescribe it for me. i am considering trying it but here are some reported side effects:

Increased levels of triglycerides and cholesterol in your blood
Headaches and brain swelling
Damage to skin and mucous membranes Premature epiphyseal closure
Development of inflammatory bowel disease
Pancreatitis
Increased liver enzyme levels and liver damage
Disturbances of your central nervous system
Hyperostosis (excessive bone growth) and bone demineralization
Damage to your eyes including cataracts
Erectile dysfunction
Hearing impairment
Neutropenia, agranulocytosis, and rhabdomyolysis (blood disorders)

that makes me wonder if it would be a good idea to go on it when i hear so many bad stories online... not sure how bad the risk is.
I'd go on the Accutane. Every drug has effects we consider good and bad. The thing is does the benefits out weigh the risk.

For me... my acne began to clear up at age 24, and my facial scarring is minimal (although it seems big to me but judging by others reactions/interactions towards me it's not anywhere near as prominent as I think), so, I can look back and judge now by questioning whether it was a good thing or bad thing that I never got on Accutane. My body's ecology and organ functions were never adversely effected. That's why I think it might be a good thing I never got on because my health remained strong and my acne cleared up. But keep in mind I never knew my acne was going to clear up when I still had it at age 23.

If someone threw you in prison and told you that you had 7 years to do and then would be released, that's far less a psychological suffering than being thrown in prison told it will be a very, very, long time you'll be in prison and never knowing even after your 6th, 7th, and 8th year when you'll be released. You begin to wonder if you'll be released 20 or more years down the line.

Your suffering is much the same with your acne problem. You don't know. And time can heal wounds but time can crush a persons spirits and hopes after a while. In fact hope itself can become a curse to you, a suffering. Which is why many people doing life in prison tell younger people coming in doing life that they must abandon hope of being released and find a peace in coming to terms with their new life in prison and find ways in prison to find happiness and peace.

Now, while I was a Marine, I'm told by a former Army Ranger that perhaps the most detested thing in the Rangers is to tell lies. Especially to tell lies to your men. If your men are about to embark on a mission facing the deadliest enemies of their lives, tell them that. Prepare them truthfully. That's all real men want. But to tell them fantasies and fairytale lies is a grave injustice to them.

So, what I'm going to tell you is that on my best days on being a non-crackhead with severe acne I could never have matched my worst days of being a crackhead with little to no acne when it comes to attracting women. Hard truth. Grown man talk. That's life on life terms. Women are severe discriminators and competition for women is not like socialism or communism but it's a lot like capitalism. Out of 100 applicants for a single position the employer in capitalism will pick who they believe is the best person. Sure, 2nd, 3rd, and 40th place choices are good applicants too. The man in 2nd place might be as confident or more confident than the 1st place choice, but the employer will still pick the confident man in first place due to his one or many other superior attributes. He picks up and kisses babies, votes for Democrats, supports feminists, blah, blah, blah... just like you do. His d*ck is just as big as yours. Drives as nice a car.

What I'm saying is that your severe acne is a disadvantage. With women (not really with gay men). It's your prison sentence. But if you know your approximate release date you can stop tormenting yourself, relax, and put your energies into improving yourself so you are prepared and "marketable" come your release date. Like many prisoners do.

Or think of your acne now as doing temporary time in the military or temporary time in a monastery if you prefer.

Now... my crack addiction got me into encounters with American gay men. And what I'm going to tell you is that American gay men far surpass American women in accepting men as partners or lovers. Far surpass. By miles and miles and miles. Although my acne was already cleared up by the time I encountered these gay men... I'm still led to believe you'd be far more successful romantically and sexually with American gay men. If you're open to that. Not that I'm trying to lead you in to sin... but gay men will embrace you and bolster your self esteem and confidence. They'll tell you good things about yourself.

I would not be surprised if you went and posted on a gay American website for men and within 72 hours ended up with a boyfriend, and in less than 24 hours had some guy driving to meet you to have sex.

And compare that time (speed) to the heterosexual men on the Relationship board of this website claiming men almost never get messaged back from women, that the messaging is totally skewed in favor of the women. So, you'll have a far easier time with gay men than women as gay men are less discriminating.

Transsexuals have more men chasing them than women born girls do. If the hottest women have 3 men chasing them a good looking transsexual has 10 or 20 men chasing her. So, you'll have even less success with T-girls than you will with actual real biological women.

If you choose to only stick with women... then maybe you might consider viewing this period as a sort of temporary monastic period for you, get on the Accutane (take courage to risk), work on self improving yourself in your career and other areas of human capital. Learn another language, learn to salsa and ballroom dance, getting into gardening or fixing cars or something that really interests you. And when your acne does disappear you'll be standing 10 feet taller. You'll be more prepared for a wife and the world.
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Old 02-09-2014, 10:24 AM
 
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that's the only thing i haven't tried yet. dermatologist said he'd prescribe it for me. i am considering trying it but here are some reported side effects:

Increased levels of triglycerides and cholesterol in your blood
Headaches and brain swelling
Damage to skin and mucous membranes Premature epiphyseal closure
Development of inflammatory bowel disease
Pancreatitis
Increased liver enzyme levels and liver damage
Disturbances of your central nervous system
Hyperostosis (excessive bone growth) and bone demineralization
Damage to your eyes including cataracts
Erectile dysfunction
Hearing impairment
Neutropenia, agranulocytosis, and rhabdomyolysis (blood disorders)

that makes me wonder if it would be a good idea to go on it when i hear so many bad stories online... not sure how bad the risk is.
There is risk and that is why Roche is not manufacturing the drug anymore. Most of the lawsuits have been for inflammatory bowel disease.

Some still take the drug because they are willing to take those risks

I don't know what to tell you, you should ask around in real life. Online it's hard to figure out who is telling the truth, who has several accounts etc. I know about 6 people who took accutane, only one regreted it because she said it caused her infertility, but she did have a kid eventually. Another one didn't regret it but it didn't go away for long, it didn't work for him after several courses. The rest were happy and their cystic acne went away.

I know what I would do but this is something you need to decide yourself.
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Old 02-09-2014, 03:11 PM
 
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thanks sunstorm and sugah ray... i'm still deciding on it.
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