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Well, if he really loves her for her and everything else about her and then he should be happy. If sex was that important to him he shouldn't have married her. I can give you another story:
My uncle is happily married, been so for 34 years and is in love with his wife always hugs/kisses her, does nice and sweet things for her, they are always joking/laughing with each other but they have only had sex a few times during their marriage. I've talked to his wife many times and he just has never really cared for it, even when he was young, but just loves everything else about the relationship/being in a relationship and she to is quite happy and has never really cared for sex either but they still love each other, go on trips together all the time etc. etc. They have one son who is an adult and doing well for himself. She has told me their relationship has always been fine and it has never really been a big part of their relationship.
True, it may be a small minority but it can happen. A couple can have a "sexless marriage" and still be perfectly happy and satisfied.
Oh, and needless to say, as she has told me he has never been into watching porn or any of that, and both are very religious. I very much doubt he has ever had much of a "drive" to seek out other women.
Yeah...okay. Perhaps my daughters idea of commitment comes from wanting to feel love and protected? And no, her bf does not have a drive to sleep with other women. Men that are good and truly value a woman and a good committed relationship don't.
You DO realize that love and sex are two different things, right?
Why is it so surprising? Heck, he even has a porn block program on his computer for crying out loud! He even declined to go to hooters because of all the scantily clad women. Why is it so hard to believe a man can detest porn? He's a good man that only cares for my daughter and should have no reason for it, I don't care what anyone says, to me porn is one of the worst things ever and it's ridiculous how women should just accept that men watch it it's SO extremely degrading towards women and I can't believe there are women that not only accept it but will watch it themselves!
For just once on this forum, can we please stop acting like men are the creeps while women are the unwitting victims? You do know that women willingly participate (and love being) in pornography, right?
But for some (particularly those who have strangely dysfunctional and emotionally unhealthy issues wrapped up around sex and sexuality, some of which have been discussed on this thread), it's not entertainment. It's a substitute that's become the preference or the sole interest or the only thing that works.
For just once on this forum, can we please stop acting like men are the creeps while women are the unwitting victims? You do know that women willingly participate (and love being) in pornography, right?
You do know that women WATCH pornography, right? But it'll be a cold day in hell before it becomes the focal point of my sex life, or something I'd want to turn my partner down in favor of. There's not even any question.
You do know that women WATCH pornography, right? But it'll be a cold day in hell before it becomes the focal point of my sex life, or something I'd want to turn my partner down in favor of. There's not even any question.
I know this. I'm just sick of a lot of posters on this forum (in this case, the OP) crying misogyny for everything. She's saying it's degrading to women all the while they are willingly participating in it. Nobody is forcing them to do it.
Well, if he really loves her for her and everything else about her and then he should be happy. If sex was that important to him he shouldn't have married her. I can give you another story:
My uncle is happily married, been so for 34 years and is in love with his wife always hugs/kisses her, does nice and sweet things for her, they are always joking/laughing with each other but they have only had sex a few times during their marriage. I've talked to his wife many times and he just has never really cared for it, even when he was young, but just loves everything else about the relationship/being in a relationship and she to is quite happy and has never really cared for sex either but they still love each other, go on trips together all the time etc. etc. They have one son who is an adult and doing well for himself. She has told me their relationship has always been fine and it has never really been a big part of their relationship.
True, it may be a small minority but it can happen. A couple can have a "sexless marriage" and still be perfectly happy and satisfied.
Oh, and needless to say, as she has told me he has never been into watching porn or any of that, and both are very religious. I very much doubt he has ever had much of a "drive" to seek out other women.
The reason he doesn't have a drive for other women is because he doesn't have a drive for his own wife! Have you considered that your uncle may be deeply in the closet? Mine is. And our former roommate was in a highly religious, nearly sexless marriage except for dutifully siring two sons. He waited until she divorced him, then moved out of state and came out. His family has no idea, except for one son.
The reason only a small minority (as you say) would be satisfied with such a marriage is because most people do not enjoy celibacy. There's nothing to admire about living without the joy and intimacy of physical love. Your uncle and his wife made it work, so that's nice for them, but it's nothing to look up to or aspire to have.
Men need variety in a committed relationship . Porn is that visual variety. It's also convenient.
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it's SO extremely degrading towards women and I can't believe there are women that not only accept it but will watch it themselves!
