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Society pressures people to couple up, commit, settle down and gave kids. Anytime someone deviates from that norm.. people freak. Obviously people don't freak as much as in the past, but there is still some discomfort with the idea that someone wants to stay single.
As a single guy in my early 30's I've noticed the increasing pressure and questions about my choice to stay single. What I don't understand is why anyone cares. If you are happy following the traditional cookie-cutter lifestyle you were told to follow.. what does that have to do with me?
I haven't decided yet if I will ever get married or have kids, but I find the idea less appealing the older I get. So I might possibly stay single for life or at least for the foreseeable future. I would rather just date people and have fun lighthearted relationships with no agenda.
What you have written is not interest in your sex life but interest in your relationship life.
If you want the questions or comments to stop tell whomever that you want them to stop.
If/when they continue, walk out, hang up, quit texting and tell them that you are doing so because they
insist on making comments about a topic that is not up for discussion.
There is really no extreme pressure. I've just noticed a change after turning age 30 where people expect me to be looking for a wife. When I say I'm not actively looking, many are surprised or wonder why.
Pressure or no pressure.. the majority of people still assume single people don't like being single lol.
Mod cut. and if someone tried to pry in my love life I'd tell them to mind their own business. People need to worry about their own lives instead of being nosy.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 04-23-2017 at 08:48 PM..
Reason: Vulgar language.
In some ways it can be intrusive and insulting. However I think it's just human nature to ask if we all have partners or kids. I get asked that sometimes by casual acquaintances or people I'm just getting to know better. Sort of like what type of work do you do, do you rent or own, do you have kids or a wife, what do you do for fun, etc etc etc.
It definitely gets annoying if they keep on asking why you haven't married yet or have kids. People should know better to ask more than once.
The fact that you think people asking about why you're single is actually them being "interested in your sex life" says a whole lot about your sensitivities in this area.
I believe I read on pew research that women are only the breadwinner 28% of the time. The number that many other websites use (which is closer to 50%) accounts for single mothers who don't even have a competing salary.
So... I would say at LEAST 70%
So sorry - here are some numbers from the most recent Pew Research I could find:
In 2015, the latest year for which data are available, 42 percent of mothers were sole or primary breadwinners, bringing in at least half of family earnings (meaning they earned as much or MORE than their husbands).
Nearly another one-quarter—22.4 percent—were co-breadwinners, bringing home from 25 percent to 49 percent of earnings. This represents a continuation of the previous trends seen in CAP’s research using data from 2009, 2010, and 2013.
Furthermore, I believe, anyone who's truly happy being single wouldn't make any effort in proving/announcing it to anyone. Happy people very rarely complain about anything.
Who is complaining? I'm asking a question.
Also, happy people totally prove/announce it to people. Its called "celebrating".
Try not to paint such a broad brush. Everyone is not the same in how they express themselves.
Also, happy people totally prove/announce it to people. Its called "celebrating".
Try not to paint such a broad brush. Everyone is not the same in how they express themselves.
Very true, some insist on announcements, dramatics and attention.
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