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OP, here is an idea if you feel absolutely compelled to over gift this person:
Ask her what charities she supports (animal shelter, children's charities, etc.) and make a donation in her name to that particular group. I guarantee the money you would spend on a gift card or windchimes can be put to the best use by a group such as this.
Its inappropriate to give a gift to someone whom you have hired/contracted to do work for you. You are confusing the transactional relationship. ...
I am confusing nothing whatsoever. There is no inappropriateness in her wish whatsoever.
I am certainly not confused enough that I would deign to instruct the OP on impropriety for a fairly innocuous desire to express gratitude.
I am certainly not confused that anyone here has indicated any expectation that the OP "owes" anyone in the world a gift, let alone her agent, who is NOT a CarMax salesperson, but is acting as her buyers' agent.
The creation of expectation, or owing a gift is YOUR creation, not the OP's, nor that of any agent here.
At the risk of further devolving the thread into "All About You": What is the source of your negativity towards her?
I have a contract with my wife.
Love, honor, etc. Nowhere is a gift mentioned.
In your world, is it appropriate or inappropriate for me to give her something for Christmas out of appreciation and affection? Or am I confusing the contractual relationship?
I am confusing nothing whatsoever. There is no inappropriateness in her wish whatsoever.
I am certainly not confused enough that I would deign to instruct the OP on impropriety for a fairly innocuous desire to express gratitude.
I am certainly not confused that anyone here has indicated any expectation that the OP "owes" anyone in the world a gift, let alone her agent, who is NOT a CarMax salesperson, but is acting as her buyers' agent.
The creation of expectation, or owing a gift is YOUR creation, not the OP's, nor that of any agent here.
At the risk of further devolving the thread into "All About You": What is the source of your negativity towards her?
I have a contract with my wife.
Love, honor, etc. Nowhere is a gift mentioned.
In your world, is it appropriate or inappropriate for me to give her something for Christmas out of appreciation and affection? Or am I confusing the contractual relationship?
--rolling eyes--
A marriage contract is a personal contract. A contract between an agent an a buyer is a business contract.
Its inappropriate to give a gift in the realtor/buyer situation (from buyer to realtor) in my humblest of opinions. And silly-- does she really need a gift card? AGAIN, if the buyer insists, she can donate the money to a charity in the agent's name.
I am done here. I hope you get lots of inappropriate gifts-- you really seem to need them to reinforce your opinion of humanity.
Last edited by whatisthedealwith; 12-21-2013 at 09:43 AM..
I agree with you thoughts on this. A gift to the realtor is not an expected/required thing but it is appreciated when it is offered. Nothing inappropriate if is offered by a buyer or seller.
Last edited by dontaskwhy; 12-21-2013 at 11:16 AM..
I agree with you thoughts on this. A gift to the realtor is not an expected/required thing but it is appreciated when it is offered. Nothing inappropriate if is offered by a buyer or seller.
Of course.
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.....
A marriage contract is a personal contract. A contract between an agent an a buyer is a business contract.
Its inappropriate to give a gift in the realtor/buyer situation (from buyer to realtor) in my humblest of opinions. And silly-- does she really need a gift card? AGAIN, if the buyer insists, she can donate the money to a charity in the agent's name.
I am done here. I hope you get lots of inappropriate gifts-- you really seem to need them to reinforce your opinion of humanity.
No one needs any gifts, but the world can always use more manners.
I deem your posts in the thread to be mostly trolling to disrupt, but hope you have found help.
OP, here is an idea if you feel absolutely compelled to over gift this person:
Ask her what charities she supports (animal shelter, children's charities, etc.) and make a donation in her name to that particular group. I guarantee the money you would spend on a gift card or windchimes can be put to the best use by a group such as this.
I do not feel it is over giving, and although it is none of your business I already give to charities!
FWIW...I would give a small gift to the car maxx salesperson if I felt they had gone above what is normally expected.
That is how I am...and since I am not spending YOUR money...I dont get what your riff is!
but, I did not post this question to cause ill feelings among posters...so thank you every one who has answered my question and for your support Mike and others and I will find a nice gift for her after closing besides referring her!
Thank you again!
I do not feel it is over giving, and although it is none of your business I already give to charities!
FWIW...I would give a small gift to the car maxx salesperson if I felt they had gone above what is normally expected.
That is how I am...and since I am not spending YOUR money...I dont get what your riff is!
but, I did not post this question to cause ill feelings among posters...so thank you every one who has answered my question and for your support Mike and others and I will find a nice gift for her after closing besides referring her!
Thank you again!
Personally, I applaud your attitude. My postman gets paid to do his job as well but I still give him a holiday gift because he's friendly and does a great job.
I'm absolutely flabbergasted by the attitude of some here not wanting to reward a person who went above and beyond.
Its inappropriate to give a gift in the realtor/buyer situation (from buyer to realtor) in my humblest of opinions. And silly-- does she really need a gift card? AGAIN, if the buyer insists, she can donate the money to a charity in the agent's name.
I am done here. I hope you get lots of inappropriate gifts-- you really seem to need them to reinforce your opinion of humanity.
It is never inappropriate to give a gift that you want to give. For some people giving gifts makes them happy. Gifts seem to have to have a specific purpose for you, and that's fine. Some people are really practical people and don't like rah rah stuff. Maybe that's you, I don't know.
The OP likes to do nice things for other people and gets a sense of satisfaction from doing so. That is never inappropriate. Not everything in the world should be calculated and have some business purpose. Showing gratitude is a good trait, I think.
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