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You are right of course. The best dating gurus will teach you how to be yourself and know what you want along with some social skills. The "how" is important.
Being yourself when under the stress of trying to meet someone, walking up and introducing yourself, taking aperson on a date etc... is actually most tricky.
Oh look... I'm being myself.
The better dating gurus, rather than giving you a bunch of tricks will actually get into this for you and help you out. If he is a good one then I truly do advise it. I don't know if I am allowed to name names in this forum but if you wanna know who I recommend then pm me.
I'm not sure what you mean by "gurus". However, I find people seldom have an objective view of themselves. To that end, a few tips and pointers from a the gurus of dating might be helpful.
I'm not sure what you mean by "gurus". However, I find people seldom have an objective view of themselves. To that end, a few tips and pointers from a the gurus of dating might be helpful.
I mean dating experts/coaches, which one sees online from time to time.
I am not sure if they know 100% what will work since every head is a different world. Anybody can read some of their tips and be "Oh, I've done that..." and an other ocassions be like "Huh? That would totally be a turn off for me
I read some dating gurus/coaches advise women to let the guy do it all for them because "that is what guys like". That doesn't work for me. I like equality in relationships, which is almost non-existant, and I am yet to see a dating guru/coach say something about it. So, some things might be ok but most of them are things we all learn throughout the years I guess.
And sometimes being yourself really doesn't cut it.
If being rude is someone "being themselves" then yeah, time to change some things there. But if being yourself means being silly, adventurous, flirty, whatever it is, I don't see something wrong with that. Being fake just to score, I am not sure about that.
Imagine dating a fake person that is pretending to be what they are not or being in a relationship where you are not comfortably being yourself.
Some guys make common mistakes and have some ways of thinking that will hurt them..
When they are seeking dates/relationships.
I have found a few of the "Gurus" to be pretty dead-on a few subjects.
If being rude is someone "being themselves" then yeah, time to change some things there. But if being yourself means being silly, adventurous, flirty, whatever it is, I don't see something wrong with that. Being fake just to score, I am not sure about that.
Imagine dating a fake person that is pretending to be what they are not or being in a relationship where you are not comfortably being yourself.
I am certainly not talking about someone faking their way through anything. One has to be open to change, because "being yourself" does not work for everyone. And if you're one of those people who is clearly and completely inept, seeks out advice only to resist it over and over, then continue to ask the same silly questions wondering what the solution is, it isn't going to work. There will be no one who can help him.
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Oh look... I'm being myself.
