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I have read this phrase many times saying to people who date is to relax and treat the date and talk to him like a friend. From a woman's perspective, I am trying to see how this is possible knowing the man wants to eventually get in bed with me. How can a woman be calm and relaxed knowing this is what going to the through the man's head also while getting to know her. My friends do not want to sleep with me so I can act natural. There is no way I can act natural when some guy is trying to figure out his way to sleep with me. I am still trying to figure this out how can this naturalness be possible. The possibility of a guy trying to get with me does not make me calm and relaxed.
I have read this phrase many times saying to people who date is to relax and treat the date and talk to him like a friend. From a woman's perspective, I am trying to see how this is possible knowing the man wants to eventually get in bed with me. How can a woman be calm and relaxed knowing this is what going to the through the man's head also while getting to know her. My friends do not want to sleep with me so I can act natural. There is no way I can act natural when some guy is trying to figure out his way to sleep with me. I am still trying to figure this out how can this naturalness be possible. The possibility of a guy trying to get with me does not make me calm and relaxed.
Sure it can and does work. It may just be the best method for people who are tired of the games and BS. If you don't work out as friends there is no point continuing!
Your (male) friends want to have sex with you as well. Of this I assure you.
Ok, I believe that, but I the three I have I know one would like to. The other one is married and last one he definitely does not see me more than as friend.
It's nice to know if a guy wants me if it just a casual flirting situation like getting hit on in the grocery store or bar. I can eventually get away from that. But dating situation it makes me feel bad because one I feel like he is trying to use me. Two, I just do not like feeling rush being jumped into bed. The person is just a stranger to me, and lastly I know I am never going to sleep with him. So I feel uncomfortable, and feel like it is a waste of time on both ends.
It's nice to know if a guy wants me if it just a casual flirting situation like getting hit on in the grocery store or bar. I can eventually get away from that. But dating situation it makes me feel bad because one I feel like he is trying to use me. Two, I just do not like feeling rush being jumped into bed. The person is just a stranger to me, and lastly I know I am never going to sleep with him. So I feel uncomfortable, and feel like it is a waste of time on both ends.
Are you talking about one particular guy? I don't see what the difference is between a guy flirting with you at the grocery store and a guy flirting with you on a date. Sure, he probably wants to sleep with you, but that doesn't mean he expects you to RIGHT NOW or that he is trying to use you or manipulate you. Why do you feel so nervous and threatened?
I don't think you should date guys you never want to sleep with. There's nothing wrong with not being sure or wanting to wait, but never? Don't do that to a guy.
It's not that I do not like men. It's just that some sexual situations intimdate me,
Sounds like something you need to get over before you date anyone
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Also, you just prove my point you assumed that did not like men because of the situation which proves all dating primarily comes down to sex mostly with some other attributes. Why do I have to sleep with you to date. Why can I wait until I want to do something. This is why I do not date much.
What is your point exactly? You obviously disassociate friendship from relationships, as you mentioned your male "friends" in your first post. So because a man does as well that somehow makes him wrong?
You're not making any sense, clarify please.
I mean your question makes no sense, that's the point of dating and not just being "friends" If you want to be "just friends" with a guy then do that and don't date them. I don't see the problem here.
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