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Old 10-05-2012, 05:03 PM
 
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Sorry for the dual threads. This one gets to the point I hope:

I have posted about this woman before. She flaked on our 2nd date. She apologized for it. She asked me out last week for this Friday night (tonight). I decided to give her a 2nd chance.

Today (the day of the date) she brings up that she wants to bring her best friend because it is her Birthday.

Kind of strange to bring that up now. Do I even bother giving this a shot or call if off right now? Sounds like this gal is trying to put me in her "friend" category...??
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:04 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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There may be a birthday threesome in your future! Even if not, be gracious, as it will reflect well on you - if you remain interested in her.
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Between Heaven And Hell.
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I hope you're not paying the bill, one's enough.

Can you go Dutch with three?
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Sounds like she is a must miss.
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:10 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Not sure why you are bothering with this woman still. I'd never ask to bring along a friend to a 2nd date. Kind of defeats the purpose of a date, doesn't it?
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:11 PM
 
Location: USA
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There may be a birthday threesome in your future! Even if not, be gracious, as it will reflect well on you - if you remain interested in her.
Don't get his hopes up Tao.

If your good at holding a conversation I would say go for it. I don't mind this and have done it all the time. She will get to see you interact with her friend which could be a plus and you will get a thumbs up from her. Make sure you give the lions share of your time to your date though, don't want to make it seem like your more interested in the friend.

On the other hand if your not a good conversationalist, re-schedule.
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:12 PM
 
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That is a huge red flag. I would still show up, but don't expect anything.
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:16 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Show up and get really drunk.
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:24 PM
 
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At what point will you, and how will you, get the friend out of the equation?

What's the friend like, is she worth consideration?
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Old 10-05-2012, 05:49 PM
 
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At what point will you, and how will you, get the friend out of the equation?

What's the friend like, is she worth consideration?

I have a buddy who is interested in being my wingman IF I were to go through with it. So I asked my "date" if here friend is cute. Her reply, "She is ok but she is really smart."

Well, can't fault her for honesty. But I won't make my buddy take a grenade for me.
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