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I just watched a movie - Up in the Air - and a situation in it made me wonder what other people think about it and what they would do.
The day of a wedding the groom got cold feet. The bride's brother (seemingly the least appropriate person for the job, but that's irrelevant) talked him back into it. So, the groom apologized, the bride wiped off her tears, and the wedding took place.
Even though it appears to be less common, the roles could be reversed, so I'm not asking only women what they would do should they find themselves in the bride's shoes. I can't say I'm absolutely sure, but I'm leaning towards not going through with it.
I just watched a movie - Up in the Air - and a situation in it made me wonder what other people think about it and what they would do.
The day of a wedding the groom got cold feet. The bride's brother (seemingly the least appropriate person for the job, but that's irrelevant) talked him back into it. So, the groom apologized, the bride wiped off her tears, and the wedding took place.
Even though it appears to be less common, the roles could be reversed, so I'm not asking only women what they would do should they find themselves in the bride's shoes. I can't say I'm absolutely sure, but I'm leaning towards not going through with it.
I remember the exact scene your talking about. I think that the someone shouldn't take it personally, its not that he didn't love her, but to say I do, really is a big decision in someones life.
Course I could see the other person feeling upset about it.
I remember the exact scene your talking about. I think that the someone shouldn't take it personally, its not that he didn't love her, but to say I do, really is a big decision in someones life.
Course I could see the other person feeling upset about it.
I don't know... I'll probably be accused by some of not knowing what love is (heck, it may be even true), but I really doubt I'd go through with it. Yeah, I'm aware the religious believe love should not be proud (and it likely shouldn't); however, I don't think I'd be able to start a life with this person on the right foot. It just wouldn't be a happy beginning to me and even if it does happen, it will eventually lead to the demise of the relationship.
I just watched a movie - Up in the Air - and a situation in it made me wonder what other people think about it and what they would do.
The day of a wedding the groom got cold feet. The bride's brother (seemingly the least appropriate person for the job, but that's irrelevant) talked him back into it. So, the groom apologized, the bride wiped off her tears, and the wedding took place.
Even though it appears to be less common, the roles could be reversed, so I'm not asking only women what they would do should they find themselves in the bride's shoes. I can't say I'm absolutely sure, but I'm leaning towards not going through with it.
1) on my side I wouldn't be getting married if I wasn't sure. So "no" I wouldn't get cold feet at the alter. Had to add the emoticon as I thought about it. I can't imagine a scenario where I hadn't thought through everything by the time my ACTUAL wedding day was there.
2) If my groom had to be talked off the ledge, so to speak... no I don't think I would go through with the wedding. I certainly would not want to marry anyone who was not absolutely certain of marrying me. In addition, to have doubts and balk on the actual day, speaks volumes that the person doesn not know themselves either - and I don't know if I could ever respect them again for getting to that point and then backing out (or thinking about it).
I just watched a movie - Up in the Air - and a situation in it made me wonder what other people think about it and what they would do.
The day of a wedding the groom got cold feet. The bride's brother (seemingly the least appropriate person for the job, but that's irrelevant) talked him back into it. So, the groom apologized, the bride wiped off her tears, and the wedding took place.
Even though it appears to be less common, the roles could be reversed, so I'm not asking only women what they would do should they find themselves in the bride's shoes. I can't say I'm absolutely sure, but I'm leaning towards not going through with it.
I doubt I would have gone through it either. If the guy could have been that unsure of his feelings about marrying, then I don't care if he changed his mind back or not. I'd have bolted.
I think people's ego's are getting involved here. There are a million clips on youtube where the bride and the groom both pass out from the "stress" of the situation.
I think people's ego's are getting involved here. There are a million clips on youtube where the bride and the groom both pass out from the "stress" of the situation.
Like I said, it really isn't personal.
That's usually from the bachelor / bachelorette party.
most people DO go through with it cause it's a lot of pressure when there are 200 guests waiting there and everything is already set etc. it takes a lot of courage to NOT go through with it at that moment, especially if you are not certain. if you are absolutely sure with all your heart that it is the wrong decision to marry, then yes it would be easy to just stop everything. but if you love the person and are having some doubts, it's difficult to stop everything
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Had to add the emoticon as I thought about it. I can't imagine a scenario where I hadn't thought through everything by the time my ACTUAL wedding day was there.
