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I'm sure a very disciplined mother could work it all out - most just aren't that organized or disciplined I'm afraid. Dating should not be given the same priority as her primary responsibilities.
After all, there are only so many hours in a day and with a child, work and college she's already stretched pretty thin. I was just encouraging her to save herself some time by being upfront with guys from the very beginning.
I find is confusing that on one hand many people will state that ALL a womans time and attention be focused on her child and responsibilities. And there will be time for her needs sometime down the road, maybe. And then your hear mothers need to take a little time for their self"and dont forget about your own needs because a stressed out mom that is engrossed 24/7 in responsibilities and everyone elses needs and wants will run herself down and not be a calm and relaxed mother.
Its not a cake walk, but many single moms are able to go to school, work, be fantastic moms and date. Especially if they have help like the OP. I agree in being upfront, but I dont think "I have a kid" has to be the first thing out of your mouth. She may find after a few dates, a particular guys not worth pursuing so no need to disclose everything.
I find is confusing that on one hand many people will state that ALL a womans time and attention be focused on her child and responsibilities. And there will be time for her needs sometime down the road, maybe. And then your hear mothers need to take a little time for their self"and dont forget about your own needs because a stressed out mom that is engrossed 24/7 in responsibilities and everyone elses needs and wants will run herself down and not be a calm and relaxed mother.
Its not a cake walk, but many single moms are able to go to school, work, be fantastic moms and date. Especially if they have help like the OP. I agree in being upfront, but I dont think "I have a kid" has to be the first thing out of your mouth. She may find after a few dates, a particular guys not worth pursuing so no need to disclose everything.
I completely agree. For the first year and a half I was a say-at-home mom and I almost went nuts. It's just not for me. Does that mean I love my son any less than those mothers who stay at home with their kids? OF COURSE NOT.
While the OP may not have handled the initial introduction of the fact she has a child, it is very unfair to portray her as a bad mother simply because she wants to date again. Having kids does not mean you have to become a nun
I find that extremely offensive as a woman and as a mother. How dare you suggest having a child is somehow a misfortune????
Just because it is not a misfortune to YOU does not mean it is not to MILLIONS of others who cannot afford to raise them or did not want them to begin with.
The sun does not rise and set upon your experiences alone, dear.
But that's what your missing - I do have free time. Like I said, I have my son two weeks out of the month. We switch every week. So, I have 2 whole weeks that my son is not with me. Now, I'm not saying my motherly duties go away, b/c I worry about him constantly - (the only flaw about being a parent - always worrying!!) but that frees me up a lot when he's not at my house with me.
Many respected psychologists are of the opinion that this is one of the most harmful arrangements you can have for a child.
WHat is going to happen when he starts school? YOu can't have him going to two different schools.
While the OP may not have handled the initial introduction of the fact she has a child, it is very unfair to portray her as a bad mother simply because she wants to date again. Having kids does not mean you have to become a nun
Many respected psychologists are of the opinion that this is one of the most harmful arrangements you can have for a child.
WHat is going to happen when he starts school? YOu can't have him going to two different schools.
20yrsinBranson
And how is it harmful? Just curious.
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