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Old 08-07-2010, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Georgia
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My BF/fiance have not had sex in over a month!!!!!Yes believe it or not!This is just nuts!!! I am not a nymphomaniac by a long shot, but please....this is just not what I think is the "norm". This is only the first year of the relationship too BTW!!!. Should I just get a vibrator maybe? I am almost tempted to look for a boytoy or something....But that is not like to me to cheat or wander astray...sorry, I am just FED UP...If this is what I signed on for I might as well make a platonic friend. Any advice/suggestions???? If you were into a ten year marriage that would be one thing, but the first year of a dating relationship...now that's another story...
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Old 08-07-2010, 11:56 AM
 
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My BF/fiance have not had sex in over a month!!!!!Yes believe it or not!This is just nuts!!! I am not a nymphomaniac by a long shot, but please....this is just not what I think is the "norm". This is only the first year of the relationship too BTW!!!. Should I just get a vibrator maybe? I am almost tempted to look for a boytoy or something....But that is not like to me to cheat or wander astray...sorry, I am just FED UP...If this is what I signed on for I might as well make a platonic friend. Any advice/suggestions???? If you were into a ten year marriage that would be one thing, but the first year of a dating relationship...now that's another story...
Have you spoken to him about it?

A vibrator is not a replacement for sex and intimacy. Figure it out now, while you can still get out.
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:00 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Is he stressed? Ill? Depressed? Seeing someone behind your back? You're not giving us much to go on.
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Do like Kim Catrall in Sex in the city. Sushi is always a good Idea when A man is hungry.

Your not a nympho for having sexual desires.

Last time this happened to me. Me and my ex hadn't had sex in the whole month. It cost me 1 bed and a T-shirt.

Dress sexy and go get him!!

And for gods sake Don't hold back. Make him pay. (what a lucky guy )
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Broken Promise Land
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Can you provide more information?

Is he being affectionate otherwise?

Or is he more distant? Withdrawn? Etc?

Is he stressed out? Is he more angry towards you? Critical?

Basically, describe how he has been behaving towards you outside of the bedroom in the last month compared to the prior 11 months. How often did you have sex before? Did he initiate?

Also, what has happened during the last month? New job? New friends? Family issues?
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:14 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Theres no sexual attraction

Hes sexually dysfunctional

Hes passive aggressive withholds sex

Hes seeing someone

Asexual

Any of the above would be reason to move on

Edit....Another thought...hes having a herpes outbreak.
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:21 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I`m assuming that you have pointed this behaviour out to him, or at least stood in front of him with your lingerie on and said..."HELLOOOOOO!"
Make sure he is not spending to much time viewing porn.
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:26 PM
 
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Hmmm, my cranial hard drive keeps giving me an error message: "Please insert more information and try again."
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Hmmm, my cranial hard drive keeps giving me an error message: "Please insert more information and try again."
She is horny. not too hard to understand
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Old 08-07-2010, 12:34 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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My BF/fiance have not had sex in over a month!!!!!Yes believe it or not!This is just nuts!!! I am not a nymphomaniac by a long shot, but please....this is just not what I think is the "norm". This is only the first year of the relationship too BTW!!!. Should I just get a vibrator maybe? I am almost tempted to look for a boytoy or something....But that is not like to me to cheat or wander astray...sorry, I am just FED UP...If this is what I signed on for I might as well make a platonic friend. Any advice/suggestions???? If you were into a ten year marriage that would be one thing, but the first year of a dating relationship...now that's another story...
Gather up all the ^^^ angry emoticons:

Get naked and place one on each n*pple and the remaining across your woo-hoo! Let us know how it turns out!
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