Sex life more then on the rocks (dating, how to, women)

[giggles24]

Need some advice...
My bf and I have been dating for 3 years and our sex life is TERRIBLE. I used to be a very sexual active women before I met him, but for some reason I have dropped off suddenly after we started dating (Im talking maybe once a month sometimes once every 2 months and were 24). Hes a sweetheart, and to be honest all my former bf's/flings were real douche bags. Hes not terrible in bed but hes really timid and does not know how to take control. He wants to have sex with me all the time but to be honest Id rather watch paint dry. Hes in college and we both work full time so our schedules leave literally no time for real intimacy after a 12 hr day most of the time we just pass out. I know Im at the point in my life where it doesn't make sense for me to date the a**hole, but everyday going back to my old ways seems more and more appealing.
Is it really a compromise? Good sex bad relationship? Bad sex good relationship?

[Ron.]

Have you ever asked him what's the problem?

[domino]

Originally Posted by Ron.

Have you ever asked him what's the problem?

That's rare for a 24y/o guy not to want any A**

You need to read the OP again. He wants it all the time, she's not interested.

[cpg35223]

There's no future in it.

If you don't want to scorch the sheets with him right now, then how do you think it's going to be when you're 35 or 45?

End it. Now.

[Ron.]

Originally Posted by domino

You need to read the OP again. He wants it all the time, she's not interested.

I'll be darned......I skipped over that..........thanks for bringing that to my attention.

Sometimes, these unformatted posts hurt my eyes so I "rush read" and miss stuff.


Thanks again.

[Rhenzanite]

Have you started taking birth control pills?

My sex drive was DESTROYED when I started taking the estrogen pills...now I'm on the mini pill and it was amazing how quickly my libido shot up.

[giggles24]

Im on depo. Have been since I was 15. Sex drive was insane until I met him (at 21).

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by giggles24

Need some advice...
My bf and I have been dating for 3 years and our sex life is TERRIBLE. I used to be a very sexual active women before I met him, but for some reason I have dropped off suddenly after we started dating (Im talking maybe once a month sometimes once every 2 months and were 24). Hes a sweetheart, and to be honest all my former bf's/flings were real douche bags. Hes not terrible in bed but hes really timid and does not know how to take control. He wants to have sex with me all the time but to be honest Id rather watch paint dry. Hes in college and we both work full time so our schedules leave literally no time for real intimacy after a 12 hr day most of the time we just pass out. I know Im at the point in my life where it doesn't make sense for me to date the a**hole, but everyday going back to my old ways seems more and more appealing.
Is it really a compromise? Good sex bad relationship? Bad sex good relationship?

You've been with your bf for 3 years and you've just decided the sex is bad?

If he wants to have sex and is timid or doesn't know how to take control, why haven't you talked about it?

As long as the equipment is acceptable, there isn't anything that can't be learned. You have to decide if you want to teach him what you like. If not, then go find yourself an a*hole and let someone else have a turn at the chalkboard.

[le roi]

i can take care of this problem.

[giggles24]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

She's only had two posts. I suspect a troll.

No, I just want an honest answer. If its possible to have a sweet guy who's also amazing in bed.