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I stopped making dinner for my boyfriend..Here is why.
I usually invite him over to my house for dinner usually 3 or 4 nights a week.
My household bills went up an extra $200.00 a month. Im paying student loans now. His income is more than mine. I bring my own lunch I cant afford to go out to eat for lunch. He goes out to eat everyday.
He recently recieved $2000.00. Ive been taking him to work for the last couple of days his SUV will be ready Friday. Do you think he said here is some money to buy yourself lunch..HELL N0...he knows I cant afford to buy lunch... So NO more DINNERS for him...
You shouldn't be making anyone dinner regularly unless you live together and/or married, so it's expected your expenses are shared to some degree. I love to cook and enjoy cooking for a boyfriend, but there's no way I'd be having some scrub who doesn't contribute to my expenses routinely eating the food I BOTH purchased AND cooked for him with no compensation. He's not my child.
Why would your financial issues be his burden or responsibility? You are dating, not married or living together.
On the issue of shared meals, however, I do think it is fair to bring up shared costs, unless he is paying for your dinner the other nights of the week (like taking you out, etc). Otherwise I think it's fair to either split the costs of the groceries for dinner and have you cook and him do the dishes or he pay for the groceries and you do the cook and clean up. If you two are a serious couple, it's fair to expect going half on things like that.
However whatever your finances and budget are (and whether you are living within your means or not) are really not his problem or responsibility.
I can't blame you. If there's no reciprocity, there's no point.
I don't cook often, but if my SO puts in a request for something fancy (eggplant parm), he knows I might say, "You buy, I'll fly," and then he'll get a list of ingredients to go out and buy. Other times, I'll get the idea myself and pull it all together, which he balances out by taking me out somewhere another night.
Cooking three or four times a week, though? For a boyfriend? Oh, heck no. I'm a girlfriend, not a restaurant.
He's inconsiderate and self-centered. It's time to get rid of him.
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