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I don't know what all women want, but I know what makes me happy.
Conversation, fun, lots of laughter, affection (but not sickeningly so), being really listened to, being told I'm hot and being made to feel I'm hot, special secret looks, being someone's best friend.
A man who isn't afraid to be a man. One who is strong, yet tender. One who stands up for what he believes in, even if it isn't popular. A guy who doesn't care what other people think, and lives his life his own way. A man who is smart, makes me laugh, gets me, thinks I am the sexiest woman around, knows how to make me ache for him, and is there for me. Also, a man who likes to live, doesn't whine or nag, and just generally enjoys life. I don't really have a list, but I know what I like.
Loyalty, 3 hours of conversation and hanging out everyday before and after the marriage, no cheating, for him to not be quick to fall in love with everyone he sees, sincerity, for him to go to work or earn a paycheck in some way, non-violent, non-rude, tuned to my needs and desires, non-combative. I'm sure there's more.
A man who isn't afraid to be a man. One who is strong, yet tender. One who stands up for what he believes in, even if it isn't popular. A guy who doesn't care what other people think, and lives his life his own way. A man who is smart, makes me laugh, gets me, thinks I am the sexiest woman around, knows how to make me ache for him, and is there for me. Also, a man who likes to live, doesn't whine or nag, and just generally enjoys life. I don't really have a list, but I know what I like.
I guess this is where most relationships tend to falter, is when a woman says I want a man that's strong yet sensitive, smart but not to smart, funny but not a comedian etc etc. see the irony that men are faced w/ when we meet one goal it sometimes feels women want men to be everything, and when it's impossible to be that this is when you often hear of someone stepping outside the relationshiip.
Now i'm not saying that is u but it's darn hard to be a man these days, or a single man trying to fit a bill.
I have not been in the market for a man for two decades but what I want ( and have ) in a man is intelligence ( conventional education is not necessary, a self taught man is just as good as a University educated person ), a great sense of humour and self deprecation ( there is little so off putting as a man who takes himself too seriously), loyalty and faithfulness ( non negotiable - a deal breaker in my books).
He must also be kind, intellectually curious, love travel, the arts, cultural activities, fun to be with, adventurous, open minded ( no racist/xenophobe/homophobe/bigot for me ), politically and socially active. Must love animals. Must not want to have children.
A man who is not afraid of being sensitive and tender, does not care what other people think of him. Not macho, a man who is strong enough to be a good man without all the posing and posturing of many men who just want to be one of the guys at all costs.
Someone who respects me enough to stand up to me and for what he believes is right even if it is a hard choice to make. Someone who can argue with me without being disrespectful or nasty.
Non smoker, no drug taking, not a heavy drinker, not into porn. No couch potato, no sports addict.
Someone who puts me first and thinks of me first ( as I would for him) before his pals.
Ideally must share basic morals, values,and ideals as mine and at least some of my interests. We must be different enough to keep the spark going and keep interesting to each other but similar enough not to diverge on everything.
A rare Pearl indeed but I am lucky as this special creature does share my life.
Physically a killer smile, eyes with a "naughty" twinkle in them, lovely hands. Sexy and sensual but able to see the funny side of sex.
I guess this is where most relationships tend to falter, is when a woman says I want a man that's strong yet sensitive, smart but not to smart, funny but not a comedian etc etc. see the irony that men are faced w/ when we meet one goal it sometimes feels women want men to be everything, and when it's impossible to be that this is when you often hear of someone stepping outside the relationshiip.
Now i'm not saying that is u but it's darn hard to be a man these days, or a single man trying to fit a bill.
Right there is THE problem: "Fitting the bill".
Fit your own bill -- period.
Be nice, but don't be a doormat. There are times in life when you're going to have to bite the bullet and there are times when you can put your foot down and refuse to bend or compromise.
Take care of YOURSELF first -- until you find someone you believe is WORTH placing ahead of yourself. This means:
- physically (what's the use in long life if it's not healthy?)
- emotionally (sentimentality is good but TIMING is important)
- academically (a MAN, as opposed to a boy, should never stop learning about the world around him)
- and financially (make sure you're covered, always, until you find someone you trust -- then make sure they're covered too but ALWAYS be wary until they prove themselves beyond a shadow of a doubt)
Do everything as though you MEAN it; walk with PURPOSE, and don't worry about whether you fit some woman's bill. Speak firmly but politely; err on the side of courtesy and don't be afraid to make mistakes -- you always will, the trick is to avoid repeating them.
Help the weak and elderly, stand up for your principles, pick your battles wisely but don't run from a fight.
Don't take yourself or the world's problems too seriously; this, too, shall pass.
Pretty darned quick, a woman whose bill you fit will just show up and want you and you'll never have to worry again about whether you "fit" or not.
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