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A guy meets a girl at a club. He talks to her for a while by phone. He goes out with the same girl and her female friends (which he met for the first time) to celebrate her birthday. On a second occasion, he joins her to hang out/party with those same group of female friends. Upon leaving he tells the girl goodnight and then individually gives her female friends a hug and a kiss goodbye before he leaves.
I was just curious - is that appropriate or inappropriate to you?
He said women who have a problem with this are insecure.
A guy meets a girl at a club. He talks to her for a while by phone. He goes out with the same girl and her female friends (which he met for the first time) to celebrate her birthday. On a second occasion, he joins her to hang out/party with those same group of female friends. Upon leaving he tells the girl goodnight and then individually gives her female friends a hug and a kiss goodbye before he leaves.
I was just curious - is that appropriate or inappropriate to you?
He said women who have a problem with this are insecure.
What are your thoughts?
Is he American? I'm just trying to rule out cultural customs.
I'm a little confused by your question. What/who was he responding to when he said that, "women who have a problem with this are insecure"? A friendly goodbye hug and a peck on the cheek are perfectly acceptable amongst friends and after spending two evenings with the same group and enjoying the company I can't see that it's "inappropriate" at face value.
I'm a little confused by your question. What/who was he responding to when he said that, "women who have a problem with this are insecure"?
When this guy mentioned this to his friend, she asked him why did he feel the need to hug and kiss her friends on the cheek. That was his response, that she's just insecure and the hug and kiss with the girls friends was perfectly fine.
A guy meets a girl at a club. He talks to her for a while by phone. He goes out with the same girl and her female friends (which he met for the first time) to celebrate her birthday. On a second occasion, he joins her to hang out/party with those same group of female friends. Upon leaving he tells the girl goodnight and then individually gives her female friends a hug and a kiss goodbye before he leaves.
I was just curious - is that appropriate or inappropriate to you?
Appropriate in theory. Americans can be huggers, and if the group is friendly, it can be no big deal. Kisses on the cheek are also fine in theory. Kisses on the mouth, not so much.
He said women who have a problem with this are insecure.
Which women? The woman he is dating, or the friends? Everybody has a right to not be hugged and kissed by people without being frowned at. If the woman's friends thought it was weird, then it was inappropriate.
I would feel a little weird about it, personally, only because if I'm reading this right, he's only met these girls twice...right?
If it were a "second date" kind of situation, sure, a kiss on the cheek or the lips or what-have-you. A second platonic meeting? That seems a little "off" to me.
If he jumped right on the "insecurity" card without batting an eye, then 1) it's probably not the first time he's done this and that the other woman/women was/were "insecure" in reaction and/or 2) he's feeling defensive...hence, he may be hiding something.
Either way, it doesn't sound like this guy's exactly stellar in the social department. I personally might just shrug it off to that, but I would NOT tolerate the "you're just insecure" thing. Silliness and games right out of the gate? I'd keep smilin' and slowly phase this guy out.
That's just me.
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