Does a Husband own his Wife?

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by floridadreamer

Excuse me? What year is this again? Is that a SERIOUS question?

In Saudi Arabia a woman would probably be severely chastised for even asking this question.

[Nighteyes]

Originally Posted by floridadreamer

Excuse me? What year is this again? Is that a SERIOUS question?

Originally Posted by Trimac20

In Saudi Arabia a woman would probably be severely chastised for even asking this question.

Trimac20,

I can't help but notice that you don't live in Saudi Arabia. [B-r-r-r-t! WRONG, but thank you for playing!] How would you, personally, as a resident of the "Western periphery of Terra Australis", answer the question?

From a purely personal perspective, if you don't have the cajones to answer this honestly, "ta-hell-witchya".

-- Nighteyes

P.S: To be absolutely clear, cajones is the Spanish/Mexican word for "testicles".

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

Always found in weird in the old days when women were sometimes called 'Mrs (insert husband's first name here) Jones.' As a kid I was like, 'mum, why does that lady have a boy's name?' Lol

If I ever marry I don't care if my wife doesn't take on my last name. That's not important to me. If we have kids, we can flip a coin. I don't care about passing on my name, although I do feel a certain duty to my ancestors, but in the end my DNA is still in the kid. I find people who think they are own others domineering and jealous, caring more about them as property than people.

[malamute]

What's the point of marriage if the couple doesn't want to give themselves to the other? Just stay single if you want to be single and independent.

Women also will say "my husband" as well as men saying "my wife". "My" is obviously a possessive pronoun that implies a kind of ownership.

[Perfect Stranger]

Originally Posted by Hoosier

She told me she'd rather be called Ms. than Mrs. And why do women have three options? Miss, Ms. and Mrs...or worse yet even, Ma'am! Ma'am is some old woman.

Being a lady has no age. I'm afraid your comment is symptomatic of today's Peter Pan syndrome. It's like grown men who get scared when they get called Mr. X. They associate that with adulthood and responsibility and they prefer to continue playing videogames and "hanging out" well into adulthood, clinging to their lost adolescence.

[Doll Eyes]

I have never understood why women make a big stink about this. Either take the man's last man's, don't take it, or add it on to yours. Any one you choose doesn't mean you are 'property' of said man or that you "lose" your own identity because you don't have a certain surname. IMO, a woman that lets that happen, wasn't all that independent to begin with....

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by Hoosier

At work today a co-worker told me that she hates being called "Mrs." I asked her why and she replied she is her own person and is not "owned" by any man. She told me she'd rather be called Ms. than Mrs. And why do women have three options? Miss, Ms. and Mrs...or worse yet even, Ma'am! Ma'am is some old woman.

Now men have Mr. (and you can't tell if they're married...whereas Mrs. you can). And men are called "Sir" which can really sounds more respectful an not old-ladyish like "Ma'am".

The only reason she did take his last name was for the sake of the children she knew they'd have one day. She told me she's always believed this way...even as a young girl.

So many hang-ups. Sounds like someone just needs something to complain about. I consider that as sharing his last name, not being owned. And Ma'am is no more for just old ladies than Sir is just for old men. It's respect. In the old days, men were the persuers so it was handy to know if she was a Miss or Mrs.