Does a Husband own his Wife? (date, male, child, spouse)
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I have never understood while a women would not want to take her husbands name.
Uh, because I am my own person and that is MY name.
Also, if you are thinking this is some huge bid for solidarity, you better realize that most men wouldn't do the same for you.
I don't think I'd be OK with my wife not taking my last name.
I haven't done any kind of research on it, but I think that's the tradition that the woman takes her husband's last name? I think this is something I don't know if I can give into this.
I'm not owning her at all, she's still her own person, she just has my last name and everything else that comes along with a relationship.
I took my ex's last name and regretted it. Once you are published, it's tough to change names. People don't recognize you, you have to explain clips with different names or risk looking like you've plagiarized someone, etc. Then, after the divorce, I actually had to petition the court for "permission" to go back to my maiden name, which was absolutely ridiculous. It's MY name! Nope. Not doing that again.
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Originally Posted by stan4
Uh, because I am my own person and that is MY name.
Also, if you are thinking this is some huge bid for solidarity, you better realize that most men wouldn't do the same for you.
My college sweetheart took his wife's name when he got married. I believe they are divorced now, and he kept the name. It was more about his lousy relationship with his father (a jerk) and his stepfather (who did business with goombahs) than any great nod to feminism, but he never bothered to explain that to people who asked. It was always, "I liked her name, so why not?"
We all have our reasons. I don't see the point of others getting all judgmental.
I took my ex's last name and regretted it. Once you are published, it's tough to change names. People don't recognize you, you have to explain clips with different names or risk looking like you've plagiarized someone, etc. Then, after the divorce, I actually had to petition the court for "permission" to go back to my maiden name, which was absolutely ridiculous. It's MY name! Nope. Not doing that again.
Sorry you married the wrong guy.
I'm not going to change my position. If she doesn't want to changer her last name then sorry I can't marry that person.
My college sweetheart took his wife's name when he got married. I believe they are divorced now, and he kept the name. It was more about his lousy relationship with his father (a jerk) and his stepfather (who did business with goombahs) than any great nod to feminism, but he never bothered to explain that to people who asked. It was always, "I liked her name, so why not?"
We all have our reasons. I don't see the point of others getting all judgmental.
I know guys who have done it. But the reason has always been the same - they were angry with their nasty families and didn't want to have anything to do with them. One of them didn't like his name anyway.
Not judging. Just saying that it's pretty much a one-sided affair.
I go back and forth with the name changing thing. Right now I allow people to address us with one last name for personal mail (invitations, cards, and the like). It took me awhile for that to be ok. I do like the idea of having one name for the family. My dh and I would like to pick a new name, and maybe we could, but we're a bit too lazy to be bothered. Maybe when children come along (god willing) we'll investigate more. I am pretty attached to my name. He's not attached to his.
I'm not going to change my position. If she doesn't want to changer her last name then sorry I can't marry that person.
Well, you said in another thread that you weren't getting married anyway. So that works out.
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