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At work today a co-worker told me that she hates being called "Mrs." I asked her why and she replied she is her own person and is not "owned" by any man. She told me she'd rather be called Ms. than Mrs. And why do women have three options? Miss, Ms. and Mrs...or worse yet even, Ma'am! Ma'am is some old woman.
Now men have Mr. (and you can't tell if they're married...whereas Mrs. you can). And men are called "Sir" which can really sounds more respectful an not old-ladyish like "Ma'am".
The only reason she did take his last name was for the sake of the children she knew they'd have one day. She told me she's always believed this way...even as a young girl.
We have options?!?!?! The only one I've been called is Ms., and I don't really appreciate it. I sort of understand it, in that people need to call you something, but they are just being socially lazy and should ask.
When I got married I could not wait to be called Mrs........ It is an honor to take my husbands name. We have been married almost 13 years and I still get a kick out of someone calling me Mrs.......... I have in no way lost my personality, I am still my own person, he does not own me. I have never understood while a women would not want to take her husbands name.
I have never understood while a women would not want to take her husbands name.
Well, here's one !
It never occurred to me to change my last name when I got married. I was married later in life and had been completely independent for a long time before I ever met my husband.
When we were about to get married, I asked him if he cared if I did not change my name, did it matter to him? Luckily, he said no, it didn't matter, and he still feels that way today.
What if he had said 'yes, I want you to change your name'? We would have explored the option, and maybe I would have done it, but I tend to think I would not have. Had he been the kind of man who would have insisted I change my name, we probably would not have been getting married in the first place .
There are a lot of reasons why I would not be comfortable changing my name. For one, I have an unusual last name, and I have spend decades teaching people to pronounce it.....why waste all that effort ? Another reason is that our ethnic backgrounds are of conflicting nations, I would feel funny walking around with that ethnic name....I'd feel as though I lost some of my own ethnicity.
As for titles, I don't freak out if someone calls me "Mrs. His-name", I'll answer to it initially (though at some point, I'll politely explain that my name is actually ____). If a title is necessary, such as in business dealings, I prefer "Ms." - why should my marital status be exposed when a man's isn't? There is power in knowledge, why give it up freely to everyone?
Best of all is to just call me by my name - first and last - no titles .
I viewed my becoming a Mrs as my commitment to my vows. I don't feel owned by my husband. I married as an equal and as a partner and have never been happier.
Yep if my husband owned me I think he would have returned me after the first 6 months!
NO, I've never felt owned, I've been blessed to find my soul mate...even when he acts like a jerk.
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