To all of you who wanna have kids some day (wife, marriage)
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I'll read it later; I posted this out of anger. You'd think the whole headache of your parents divorcing would end once the judge pronounces them former husband and wife, but nope it sticks around for, well, as long as it wants to.
Don't have them unless you're 100% sure you won't divorce your spouse.
Why? Even if you stay together, is that supposed to guarantee a better life for your kids. People stay in lousy marriages for the sake of their kids all the time. Problem is the kids realize and too often grow up to think kids make life miserable. Is that the kind of people you want to see more of, the ones who think marriage is a prison that people are stuck in if they have kids?
I'll read it later; I posted this out of anger. You'd think the whole headache of your parents divorcing would end once the judge pronounces them former husband and wife, but nope it sticks around for, well, as long as it wants to.
Well it pretty much covers all of the issues you've laid out here right from the get go. You should take a look at it. It has every viewpoint and position imaginable.
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Originally Posted by West of Encino
I don't believe in having kids nor do I believe they will fix a marriage.
The link I posted had nothing to do with having children to fix a marriage.
Ideally, Denny, people also wouldn't get hitched unless they were not only incredibly compatible but also incredibly skilled at compromise and working things out.
edit: For what it's worth, until my parents split up I never saw marriage as some sort of prison. Yeah they argued sometimes but hell even best friends argue from time to time. It wasn't till my dad one day told me they were having a separation that I came to realize that sometimes marriage is a much bigger decision than just choosing to love someone till death do ye apart.
Don't have them unless you're 100% sure you won't divorce your spouse.
No such guarantee in life. If you had asked us back when we had our son if we were ever going to divorce, we would have said "Never". We signed the final divorce papers March 27, 2007. Our 14th wedding anniversary.
Things change.
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