"Be with someone because you love and deeply care for them.

[Rainonme72]

It amazes me that when people get into serious relationships/marriages they tend to think "everything" is going to be peachies and cream all the time. First you have to fully understand that ANY relationship you have is a job! Whether it's an intimate/work based/or family relationship You have to be willing to work at it. Compromise and Loyalty is what I believe in and live by. In the early stages yes it's infatuation,curiousity and that "something new" feeling that always gets our attention and makes us interested for a while,but it's that compromise and loyalty that can make you stay a lifetime!

[Introvertere]

"Be with someone because you love and deeply care for them."

Even if they beat you? Or cheat on you? Or gamble away your mortgage payment?

Please.

Be with a compatible, compassionate, kind person who values, respects, loves, and admires you. But only if you value, respect, admire, and love them in turn.

[queensgrl]

Originally Posted by robee70

I think all human beings are driven by self-interest, until they are really in love. Attraction, companionship, intellectual stimulation... these are all the things that turn us on mentally and/or physically and keep us interested in someone.

When that interest turns into "true love", then it seems that self-interest is no longer a primary factor. That's when pure emotion kicks in. Although everyone wants to truly be in love, it has the potential to be hurtful when it blinds us to what we as individuals need or want.

This statement made me wonder how many relationships ever reach "true love." Some may but in our accomplishment-driven society, where people seek relationships with "types," they may overlook ppl with whom they could find true love. Anyone agree?