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But, guess who had the responsibility of planning the wedding?
A guy planning for his wedding is like a sweet sixteen or quinceañera being planned by the girl’s boyfriend. He has no word in those celebrations because they are all about the girl who’s turning 16 or 15. Weddings are not that different, we all know it is all about the bride, “it’s her day”, the day she has dreamed of since she was a child (besides her proposal), etc. I wonder how the brides would get if their guy wanted a different color for the decoration, different kind of food, another color for the bride’s maids, if he wanted a different kind of entrance, etc. If I considered marriage I would definitely have a word on all that, it’s my wedding too and I wouldn’t want my girl to go through all the trouble by herself.
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And then there is the one-sidedness if the couple wants to have a family. It's all on the woman. Well, that's not fair at all imo
And I agree with you. See, when I talk about equality I mean it.
But when it comes to having kids, women have the upper hand. Let’s say a couple was not married and girl got pregnant. If the guy wants to keep the baby but she doesn’t, tough luck, she can kill the baby (abortion). If the guy doesn’t want the baby and go through financial burden for more than 18 years but the girl wants it, tough luck, she will have it.
A guy planning for his wedding is like a sweet sixteen or quinceañera being planned by the girl’s boyfriend. He has no word in those celebrations because they are all about the girl who’s turning 16 or 15. Weddings are not that different, we all know it is all about the bride, “it’s her day”, the day she has dreamed of since she was a child (besides her proposal), etc. I wonder how the brides would get if their guy wanted a different color for the decoration, different kind of food, another color for the bride’s maids, if he wanted a different kind of entrance, etc. If I considered marriage I would definitely have a word on all that, it’s my wedding too and I wouldn’t want my girl to go through all the trouble by herself.
My dh certainly had opinions, but the responsibility of the in's and out's was on me. Locating the florist and setting the appointments. Finding invitations, examples to show him, the fonts, the envelops, getting addresses, locating the hotels and varying rates, the favors, thank you cards, keeping track of who gave what, personalized notes, the photographer and pricing that out, the meetings, etc. There are so many things that go into it. My dh did pick the toys/games to keep the children at the wedding occupied.
Further, right now I need to go because I'm cooking dinner for his family because it's his b-day. When ever they come over I'm doing the cooking.
[quote=onihC;17657643]A guy planning for his wedding is like a sweet sixteen or quinceañera being planned by the girl’s boyfriend. He has no word in those celebrations because they are all about the girl who’s turning 16 or 15. Weddings are not that different, we all know it is all about the bride, “it’s her day”, the day she has dreamed of since she was a child (besides her proposal), etc. I wonder how the brides would get if their guy wanted a different color for the decoration, different kind of food, another color for the bride’s maids, if he wanted a different kind of entrance, etc. If I considered marriage I would definitely have a word on all that, it’s my wedding too and I wouldn’t want my girl to go through all the trouble by herself. quote]
Pump your breaks buddy.
I did dream of the princess wedding as a young woman. As I grown into a rational woman I knew it wasn't logical.
When I was planning, he said, it's his day as well. I turned over the colors, cake design and vintue. I was actually pleased.
Honestly, reading those books. I kinda turned into a wedding day feen.
Sweetheart, "the book said". Honey, "the book said". Childfree, if you mention that damn book one more time. (Mind you I said, I wasn't going to go over board with the planning)
And I agree with you. See, when I talk about equality I mean it.
But when it comes to having kids, women have the upper hand. Let’s say a couple was not married and girl got pregnant. If the guy wants to keep the baby but she doesn’t, tough luck, she can kill the baby (abortion). If the guy doesn’t want the baby and go through financial burden for more than 18 years but the girl wants it, tough luck, she will have it.
That's your problem. Why are you having unprotected sex. I know it's a relationship, but so what. Now, she's preggo.
People should be held accountable for their choices. This is man/woman. You date and now I'm preggo.
I say, I want to have it. He runs off. Now what.
He convince you to have it. He runs. Now what.
I say, I'm having an abortion. He's upset. Now what.
Hey guys, stop believing these scandalous women. "Don't worry baby. I'm on the pill".
My dh certainly had opinions, but the responsibility of the in's and out's was on me. Locating the florist and setting the appointments. Finding invitations, examples to show him, the fonts, the envelops, getting addresses, locating the hotels and varying rates, the favors, thank you cards, keeping track of who gave what, personalized notes, the photographer and pricing that out, the meetings, etc. There are so many things that go into it. My dh did pick the toys/games to keep the children at the wedding occupied
It’s good that it worked out for you that way. If I considered marriage I would definitely want to be part of the things you mentioned and whatever makes the wedding happen. I mean, it’s my wedding too regardless of being a tradition to have this celebration focused on the bride.
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I'll respond to the rest later.
Enjoy the dinner .
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That's your problem. Why are you having unprotected sex. I know it's a relationship, but so what. Now, she's preggo
As for not using protection and then telling the guy “too bad, you didn’t use protection”, I guess this can also be applied to women if they complain their guy is not helping out and we could tell her “too bad, you didn’t use protection”, right?
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I say, I want to have it. He runs off. Now what.
There are lots of ways, specially in the USA, where he can get tracked down and have his money taken out of his account to pay you. Forgot the term, isn’t it called “wage garnish”? And then throw him in jail for not providing you and the child. I totally agree with that system. The thing I find interesting is that nobody checks how the mother spends the money. She can get pregnant from a guy that has lots of money and ask for ridiculous amounts of money, yet, nobody checks if she really spends the money on the child or on her girlfriends, parties, nails, etc. and if she is caught, not sure if she would get in trouble with the law. Even when the father sends his paycheck to her, he’s limited to seeing his child. She has the upper hand.
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Hey guys, stop believing these scandalous women. "Don't worry baby. I'm on the pill".
You’re right. For guys with money it is never recommended to trust a woman when it comes to birth control. She becomes pregnant and she just hit the lottery which is common in those scenarios.
A guy planning for his wedding is like a sweet sixteen or quinceañera being planned by the girl’s boyfriend. He has no word in those celebrations because they are all about the girl who’s turning 16 or 15. Weddings are not that different, we all know it is all about the bride, “it’s her day”, the day she has dreamed of since she was a child (besides her proposal), etc. I wonder how the brides would get if their guy wanted a different color for the decoration, different kind of food, another color for the bride’s maids, if he wanted a different kind of entrance, etc. If I considered marriage I would definitely have a word on all that, it’s my wedding too and I wouldn’t want my girl to go through all the trouble by herself.
And I agree with you. See, when I talk about equality I mean it.
But when it comes to having kids, women have the upper hand. Let’s say a couple was not married and girl got pregnant. If the guy wants to keep the baby but she doesn’t, tough luck, she can kill the baby (abortion). If the guy doesn’t want the baby and go through financial burden for more than 18 years but the girl wants it, tough luck, she will have it.
I know a guy that got a girl pregnant and she wanted to get an abortion. He told her she's not getting an abortion. She had the baby.
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