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I have to admit being often very judgemental HOWEVER and I think that is the crucial point I always feel that whatever does not hurt someone else is NONE of my business and therefore keep my judgements to myself.
There are many things I "disapprove" of, but privately. As far as I am concerned whatever rocks people's boat is fine with me if nobody gets hurt. My own "morals" or sense of outrage is my own and I do not have the right to inflict those on others. I am entitled to my views but I do not see why I should impose those on others if that makes sense.
I am not easily shocked however. I might disapprove but I feel I have seen so many things in my 43 years on this planet that very few things shock me. Poverty still shocks me I suppose and some religious fundamentalism , I should be used to it but cannot for some reason. Every fibre of my being rebels against those.
People's little idiosyncratic ways in the bedroom do not shock me. Puzzle me and repel me perhaps but no shock on my part.
For example I find porn loathsome and demeaning but if the adults concerned are consenting ( both the actors and the viewers) then it is none of my business.
I find S&M quite frankly bizarre, perverted and completely repellent but once again if both sides are consenting then if chains and whips are your cup of tea then by all means go for it. As long as nobody abuses another whatever floats your boat..
I accept that we are all different and ALL have our own little quirks and vices and that my views are not necessarily that of others so who am I to say what is right and wrong.
I genuinely believe we are ALL judgemental , it is just that sometimes Humans have this propensity to forget that one cannot go through life without making judgements, and having certain pre-conceptions and prejudices.
I have never met one person in my life who was totally non judgemental. It goes against the grain of human nature. It would be ab-normal IMO.
Now really. Do you expect me to believe, when your first paragraph says "it bothers me" and "I am surrounded by judgmental people", that you do not care? That you are your own and you wish people would dig deeper?
When you find that the majority of people you know disagree with you on a subject, chances are you need to rethink your thoughts about it. And you are wrong on your last statement, "The only one who needs to accept me is me." Unless you live on a deserted island with no contact with other people, you need others acceptance. Thinking you don't is the sign of an immature personality.
Im not gonna lie there are always sub conscious assumptions that I make about people based on how they look and how they are dressed but I try to ignore it until I actually get to know the person. I can tell from experience that way too many people judge me based on the way I look and dress though. People say they are open minded but in reality people have been programmed to jump to conclusions about someone based on how they look or dress.
Isn't labeling yourself "non judgemental" in order to raise yourself above those you perceive as "judgemental" a tad hypocritical and, well, judgemental?
If you judge yourself as nonjudgmental, you are judging yourself, nonetheless. Ergo, you are judgmental.
Not gonna lie, I do have a judge mental streak that seemed to have gotten worse as I got older. Sometimes, I do stop myself from thinking these judgmental thoughts and say "Stop it brain!" and think about something else.
I think of myself as being somewhere in the middle. I have a pretty traditional mindset so anything out of the norm doesn't really appeal to me. However, I don't criticize or get on people's case about the way they live their lives, "to each their own". As for judging someone based on their appearance, the same goes, there's much more to someone than the way they're dressed.
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