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I think most guys I know aren't really scared of girls. One thing I have actually figured out by going to more social event is that on some level I find girl frightening. In fact, I do seem react worse to them than potential gangster / criminals.
For example, one time I was walking through bad area of town and so criminal looking people, but I continued on my way without freaking out. Now another time I walked into meeting (at college) full of girls and I immediately got uncomfortable and left for the exit ASAP. Now I am actually not that bad off, I have heard of one guy passing out when 2 hot girls were talking him!
I am not exactly sure why I am this way. I guess girls won't kill, but ending up with wrong one can make me mireable for rest of my life?
Sounds like approach anxiety, which is basically a mixture of stage freight and fear of rejection.
Afraid of them? Well the phobia has to have started somewhere. Go back to the root cause and ask yourself if you are indeed afraid of women or afraid of repeating something.
As for winding up with the wrong person forever, well that's a personal choice to stay with the person for so long.
I think most guys I know aren't really scared of girls. One thing I have actually figured out by going to more social event is that on some level I find girl frightening. In fact, I do seem react worse to them than potential gangster / criminals.
For example, one time I was walking through bad area of town and so criminal looking people, but I continued on my way without freaking out. Now another time I walked into meeting (at college) full of girls and I immediately got uncomfortable and left for the exit ASAP. Now I am actually not that bad off, I have heard of one guy passing out when 2 hot girls were talking him!
I am not exactly sure why I am this way. I guess girls won't kill, but ending up with wrong one can make me mireable for rest of my life?
I think most guys I know aren't really scared of girls. One thing I have actually figured out by going to more social event is that on some level I find girl frightening. In fact, I do seem react worse to them than potential gangster / criminals.
For example, one time I was walking through bad area of town and so criminal looking people, but I continued on my way without freaking out. Now another time I walked into meeting (at college) full of girls and I immediately got uncomfortable and left for the exit ASAP. Now I am actually not that bad off, I have heard of one guy passing out when 2 hot girls were talking him!
I am not exactly sure why I am this way. I guess girls won't kill, but ending up with wrong one can make me mireable for rest of my life?
Hmm...maybe it's because the gangster/criminal will/can only kill you once. Being with the "wrong" woman will slowly kill you on the inside for the rest of your life, lol! Not saying that women can't kill you once. They can.
I think it's mostly because these men that find women scary have been hurt socially in the past by people. So they aren't able to trust in themselves and thus are not confident in their actions.
For most of my time in school (through elementary - High School) I usually got made fun by most girls. In fact, I still remember in gym class we were doing co-ed dancing and one girl said something like "EEK, I don't want to touch you."
Anyhow, in College I girls stopped making fun of me, well at least in front of me. I actually know couple girls from work, they seem ok when I talk to them. But who the heck really knows what they are thinking behind my back?
I guess it has to be said--women are people too. We are not aliens. Why don't you try to get to know one or two?
I already know quite few girls/women, at least a dozen. Mainly mature women seem easy to get along with. I do talk to some of girls my age but it seems like they really aren't interested in talking to me at all.
Hmm...maybe it's because the gangster/criminal will/can only kill you once. Being with the "wrong" woman will slowly kill you on the inside for the rest of your life, lol! Not saying that women can't kill you once. They can.
Here one way for me to see it. I would likely get support from society (police, law, etc) if a criminal harmed me. In fact, you can even arm yourself to protect against these criminals.
Now with girls, anything that goes wrong (like just approaching/talking/dating/sex/relationship) will be seen as my fault as a guy. I really can't think of any way of defending myself against girls either.
Dude your fear has nothing to do with "fear of marrying the wrong person" these arent in people you know stop making excuses. Your scared of women because you have social anxiety. Your scared of being judged by women as you have low self esteem.
I think most guys I know aren't really scared of girls. One thing I have actually figured out by going to more social event is that on some level I find girl frightening. In fact, I do seem react worse to them than potential gangster / criminals.
For example, one time I was walking through bad area of town and so criminal looking people, but I continued on my way without freaking out. Now another time I walked into meeting (at college) full of girls and I immediately got uncomfortable and left for the exit ASAP. Now I am actually not that bad off, I have heard of one guy passing out when 2 hot girls were talking him!
I am not exactly sure why I am this way. I guess girls won't kill, but ending up with wrong one can make me mireable for rest of my life?
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Originally Posted by HurricaneDC
It would only make you miserable for the rest of your life if you let it. Thankfully you have this thing called free will that lets you get out of a bad relationship.
I don't think bad relationships have anything to do with why guys find girls scary. I think the main reason we find girls scary is fear of rejection.
I don't think bad relationships have anything to do with why guys find girls scary. I think the main reason we find girls scary is fear of rejection.
Exactly.
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