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I think whoever initiates the date pays. If you ask me out, you're taking me out, right? That's obviously true for both men and women. However once you're in a relationship, the man pays. It'll be my treat on special occassions
He pays 100% of the time. Then again I have never asked a guy out on a date. If he's interested in you, he'll ask. Sounds desperate.
You have never said lets go out to eat? We're not talking about picking up a dude and asking him out on the first date. If you're dating someone initiating outings (ie dates) is something both people should do. If you can never suggest anything then I would think you're a dud...
Last edited by JustJulia; 03-02-2011 at 08:55 AM..
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Usually, it's the man doing the asking, so he should pay.
But if he is the one asked out, then technically the woman should pay.... however, if the man in question likes the woman a lot and wants the dating to continue and is hoping for a romance relationship with this woman, then I think that it would be smart of him to pay, and do it by sneaking his CC to the server.
Otherwise, as the dating continues and both parties are into each other, I'd then suggest them taking turns paying the whole check. Doing a 50/50 split is not very romantic and best in situations with platonic friends.
You have never said lets go out to eat? We're not talking about picking up a dude and asking him out on the first date. If you're dating someone initiating outings (ie dates) is something both people should do. If you can never suggest anything then I would think you're a dud...
Of course. When I said if he is interested I was referring to the initial dates and who is doing the pursuing. I have been married for 10 years so I don't think of our globetrotting and odd outings as "dates". I do the planning and bargain hunting so..not sure how that fits but hope it clarifies what I meant
Usually, whoever does the asking pays but then since most women don't ask out men, the man ends up paying for most of the dates anyway. To make the situation more fair, I propose the man paying for the first date since he will do the asking and then splitting 50/50 for the rest of them. I'm not really surprised that some of the female responses have said that they would prefer the guy paying most of the time. Even though they claim they want to be equal, they actually want to be equal when it suits them and that stinks of an entitlement attitude. Yes, it is maybe not as 'romantic' but then we're not living in 1950's anymore.
In that case, Tom, would you like to go out? I am craving lobster and champagne.
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