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Old 04-07-2011, 10:21 PM
 
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I've been married for 3 yrs and been though alot with him.He's abused me, cheated on me a couple of times and since then we've been to counseling and its work good.It's been 2 yrs since he hit me and the last time he cheated that I know was last yr. Well when we get into fights he throws things like tonight our cell phone. I don't know what to do I feel like i've been though enough with him and atleast he did'nt hit me.But what should I do? I am tired of his childish ways and needs some advice.
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:26 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I've been married for 3 yrs and been though alot with him.He's abused me, cheated on me a couple of times and since then we've been to counseling and its work good.It's been 2 yrs since he hit me and the last time he cheated that I know was last yr. Well when we get into fights he throws things like tonight our cell phone. I don't know what to do I feel like i've been though enough with him and atleast he did'nt hit me.But what should I do? I am tired of his childish ways and needs some advice.

Mary, please call the nearest battered women's shelter in your area and speak to the professionals there. You are in over your head and can't even see it. I'm glad counseling improved things a bit for you, but he still has issues, and so do you for staying with him
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:28 PM
 
Location: My House
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Leave.

Read your own post. Pretend someone else wrote it. What advice would YOU give a stranger?


Go find some support. Family, law enforcement, a womens' shelter...and leave.

Is this really how you want to spend your life?
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:29 PM
 
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hate to be negative, but I dont think abusers stop abusing (look at Chris Brown's supposed 'recovery' from being abusive), get out while you can
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:30 PM
 
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Change the locks and get a shotgun (And a restraining order)
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:31 PM
 
Location: Mayacama Mtns in CA
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Do a google search for battered women in your area and contact them. You need help from your local area.
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:32 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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Mary, please don't stay with him. There are so many men out there without anger issues! You need to go back to counseling, without him if necessary. No matter what, you don't need to live this way.
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:32 PM
 
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Mary, there are amazing resources available to you and people who will protect you when you leave. Please make contact with the agencies who will take you under their wings while you can.
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:34 PM
 
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Please leave him before you have any children. No child needs to be in a household where the father is immature and violent. You've been through too much with him to ever trust him so there's not much else left to do but leave.
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Old 04-07-2011, 10:38 PM
 
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Don't be around him when he is mad. Leave the area. Or better yet get him a dog so he can throw the dog a bone.
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