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I feel like this doesn't happen often as none of my friends have ever asked me to do this, but how do you feel about if you were just dating someone and they ask you to let them have the dog stay at your place so that they can spend more time with you?
I understand that the dog needs attention in particular more than your "typical dog", but something feels so off about this request for me. Even the guy himself felt a bit concerned about the request :/
I've dated the guy twice, and the dates went well, but they were also all in his area. We live about 1 hr driving distance from each other.
I'm not sure what you are asking.
He wants to leave the dog with you for an extended period so you and the dog can get to know one another? After two dates that does seem weird. I would not leave my dog with someone I have only gone of two dates with. Bondig with the dog at this point is not necessary.
I don't fully understand your question. Who is "they" - the guy or the dog?
He has a dog and wants the dog to stay at your place while you two go out?
I either leave my dog at home or we go to a place where you can bring dogs. I left my dog once with someone where my dog was at his place about 10x already and then we went out without the dog. We came back 2 hours later and the small opening to go outdoors for his little dog was now a big hole where both dogs fit through.
I don't fully understand your question. Who is "they" - the guy or the dog?
He has a dog and wants the dog to stay at your place while you two go out?
I either leave my dog at home or we go to a place where you can bring dogs. I left my dog once with someone where my dog was at his place about 10x already and then we went out without the dog. We came back 2 hours later and the small opening to go outdoors for his little dog was now a big hole where both dogs fit through.
Yes, he wants the dog to stay at my place while we go out. We could be out at a restaurant and the dog would be at my place, or we could be spending time at my place and the dog would be there. That is what he requested.
So he can't leave his dog at home for 3 or 4 hours while you go out to dinner and a movie, but instead he thinks he needs to bring the dog with you? First of all, that'll kind of limit your dates (not many nice restaurants and no nightclubs or movie theaters allow dogs) and the inability to separate from the dog for the evening would be a big red flag to me.
I understand his issue - the drive is 1 hour, plus going out, then an hour drive back - that would mean the dog is at least 4-5 hours alone.
However, you guys are too fresh. I think that request is way too early. If you want to be a nice date, you can tell him to bring the dog and you two do something dog friendly.
So you can't leave your dog at home for 3 or 4 hours while you go out to dinner and a movie, but instead you think you need to bring the dog with you? First of all, that'll kind of limit your dates (not many nice restaurants and no nightclubs or movie theaters allow dogs) and the inability to separate from your dog for the evening would be a big red flag to me.
This is all true. However, if the guy is working all day and the dog is alone and then he comes home, changes and leaves the dog alone AGAIN for a long time - that's not really dog friendly either.
You need to consider that he is 2 hours on the road, PLUS then the time he spends with OP.
I understand his issue - the drive is 1 hour, plus going out, then an hour drive back - that would mean the dog is at least 4-5 hours alone.
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This is the norm, actually on a short amount of time, for most every working adult. 8-10 hours, a walk when you get home, then another bit. I wouldn't want that to be the case every day, but people don't have dates every day.
I feel like this doesn't happen often as none of my friends have ever asked me to do this, but how do you feel about if you were just dating someone and they ask you to let them have the dog stay at your place so that they can spend more time with you?
I understand that the dog needs attention in particular more than your "typical dog", but something feels so off about this request for me. Even the guy himself felt a bit concerned about the request :/
I've dated the guy twice, and the dates went well, but they were also all in his area. We live about 1 hr driving distance from each other.
Is the guy going to be spending the night with you, or is he staying at a hotel? Could he get a neighbor to let the dog out, etc?
It feels kind of pushy to me.
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