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I'm swedish but pretty much the same goes for finnish people as swedish.
Rule #1: to get to know a person you need to have been drunk with him/her
Rule #2: to get to know a person you need to have been drunk with him/her
Rule #3: to get to know a person you need to have been drunk with him/her
Rule #4: A non drinker is a poor excuse of a scandinavian. No such thing.
Beer and vodka should do it.(and remember he can probably drink more than anyone else you know)
Once this have passed your contact is on a whole new level and he'll be ready to go ahead.
this is to cancel out what someone said; "making him talk will be a victory in itself."
Especially if you want to get physical then alcohol pretty much makes that part guaranteed.
That's funny, I remember my mom had seen this, too, and had told me about it but couldn't remember which country it was. We joked about how it would be the perfect place for us to live. So thanks, cpg.
OP, sorry I don't have any input for your original post.
During my university days, we used to have a Finnish guy in the same department, he was extremely quiet, I mean really really quiet, never spoke to anyone male or female, used to live in the same apartment complex as us, but never showed to any party even when invited, always used to say that he had some research work, heck I have never ever seen him smile either, I thought he was an introvert, didn't know most Finnish people were that way, the documentary seems to say so.
It's the same thing in northern sweden... It's still in me even though I've been living down south for a while now...
If I'm gonna be social I have to actively chose to be, otherwise I only talk instinctively when I have something in mind that I want to communicate.
People around always find all kinds of bull**** to talk about, I hardly understand the point to be honest.
It's like people are afraid of a little quietness...
Well, thank you all for your entertaining input and advice. Jefetio, that Jay Alexander video, and SwedishViking's posts, just hilarious.
It seems that being shy, quiet and cautious about making friends is part of that culture. That's kinda what I adore about him. In Washington, D.C., men can be so full of themselves and always bragging about who and what they know, where they went to school, etc and don't take time to listen. (sorry if this offends men in my area). He is the opposite of that. He is very chill, a good listener, self-deprecating, and not a show-off. I had to use the jaws of life to get out of him what languages he speaks and it was quite a few. I know for sure he is not married and he told that he is not in a relationship, though he could be lying. I don't get the gay vibe from him.
Nevertheless, I have decided that I am not going to make any more effort. Even though he has always been quite chatty with me, I am getting tired of always initiating contact. I am pretty shy too so it is kinda hard for me. I am not even holding out that we'll be friends after he leaves. If he can't get into contact when we live and work about 5 miles from each other, I don't think it will happen from 5,000 or so miles away. I am better off spending this kinda of energy on men who reciprocate.
For the dinner, I am following Marissy's advice (thanks for the reality check). I am just going to be friendly and not hope for or try for anything more. It'll just be an evening with nice conversation that doesn't lead to anything more. He will have to jump me if he wants more to happen.
Well, thank you all for your entertaining input and advice. Jefetio, that Jay Alexander video, and SwedishViking's posts, just hilarious.
It seems that being shy, quiet and cautious about making friends is part of that culture. That's kinda what I adore about him. In Washington, D.C., men can be so full of themselves and always bragging about who and what they know, where they went to school, etc and don't take time to listen. (sorry if this offends men in my area). He is the opposite of that. He is very chill, a good listener, self-deprecating, and not a show-off. I had to use the jaws of life to get out of him what languages he speaks and it was quite a few. I know for sure he is not married and he told that he is not in a relationship, though he could be lying. I don't get the gay vibe from him.
Nevertheless, I have decided that I am not going to make any more effort. Even though he has always been quite chatty with me, I am getting tired of always initiating contact. I am pretty shy too so it is kinda hard for me. I am not even holding out that we'll be friends after he leaves. If he can't get into contact when we live and work about 5 miles from each other, I don't think it will happen from 5,000 or so miles away. I am better off spending this kinda of energy on men who reciprocate.
For the dinner, I am following Marissy's advice (thanks for the reality check). I am just going to be friendly and not hope for or try for anything more. It'll just be an evening with nice conversation that doesn't lead to anything more. He will have to jump me if he wants more to happen.
Yep, that's their only let-off from their depressing jobs picking the rectum of their bosses and keeping it clean
A lot of these guys are government job rats.
They always make me smile about their constant rants about where they went to school. Like this guy in my present job who is so proud of having been to an ivy league school, he even has it in his car and alumnus souvenirs all over his cube - in an otherwise depressing job where he processes spreadsheets 8 am to 5 pm
And he has an MBA. Guys like me won't even take this kind of job if employers beg us to
Naturally, their only release is the sole thing they think is an achievement - their school and the department they work in.
From what I've heard about Finnish culture (which is only secondhand experience at best), I'd think I'd do great in it other than the fact that I'm not a heavy drinker -- its supposed to be a culture that is frank and honest, not boastful, speaking when you feel genuinely wanting to speak and not one where a person goes out of their way to ask/judge/care about others' personal lives until they are very intimate friends (though I realize they may be all stereotypes).
Cultures differ quite a lot in attitude, and from what I've heard the United States tends to be a more extroverted one, and the Finnish one an introverted one.
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Jefetio, that Jay Alexander video, and SwedishViking's posts, just hilarious. 
