Curious about Finnish Men (dating, wife, girlfriend, girl)
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I am looking for any, and all, insights into the minds of Finnish men (or Nordic or Scandinavian). I have had a big crush for a year on this Finnish guy I met through work. We don't work for the same organization, though. We have had coffee during work hours a few times. We seem to have good chemistry and I sense that he likes me. Despite my dropping hints (which I'll admit to not being good at), he never asked me out. So, I assumed he's not that into me. I still snuck contacts with him by calling him at work every so often (about once a month), pretending to have something work-related to discuss with him.
Finally, after a year of this, after running out of reasons to call him or just tired of pretending, I asked him to come to my place for dinner in a month. I used his leaving as the excuse (hopefully my final one!). He readily accepted. I noticed that he has been flirty and complementary, but quite subtle about it. So, I upped the contact to once or twice week. He responds quickly to my emails/texts/phone calls. Yet, he still doesn't initiate contact or ask me out.
I want to hopefully be friends with him after he leaves. I am assuming any chances of dating him are out. But, when he comes over, I want to get physical with him. How do I approach this and not ruin a possible friendship with this guy?
P.S. I hope this is not an inappropriate question for this forum; this is my first thread.
I'm so sorry Coco. I am not really good at these types of things. So don't take what I say as the absolute truth. :/
I think you should be friendly with him at dinner. Be casual, ask him about his family, and if he has people in Finland waiting for him (girlfriend/wife/kids). Since he is not initiating contact with you, I would err on the safe side and assume he is being friendly. Don't jump into anything with him yet. Compliment him and see how he takes it.
I think if he was straight and you were attractive he would go for it. Ive never heard of a guy that found a girl attractive not being interesting when everything fell into placce.
I am looking for any, and all, insights into the minds of Finnish men (or Nordic or Scandinavian). I have had a big crush for a year on this Finnish guy I met through work. We don't work for the same organization, though. We have had coffee during work hours a few times. We seem to have good chemistry and I sense that he likes me. Despite my dropping hints (which I'll admit to not being good at), he never asked me out. So, I assumed he's not that into me. I still snuck contacts with him by calling him at work every so often (about once a month), pretending to have something work-related to discuss with him.
Do you even know if he's single?
Other than that, Scandinavians tend to be cold folks. You'd probably have to attack him!
I'm Scandinavian and out of the Scandinavian countries, Finland is probably the coolest in terms of being socially outgoing in personalities. Take him out for drinks and see if that helps him loosen up a little!
I'm Scandinavian and out of the Scandinavian countries, Finland is probably the coolest in terms of being socially outgoing in personalities. Take him out for drinks and see if that helps him loosen up a little!
Come to think of it, somebody I know from Sweden does say the Finnish like their drinks quite a bit!
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