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I'm very glad to hear that so many men don't expect a woman to cook for them, I think women are much more willing to cook when they know it's going to be a shared task, and the man doesn't automatically expect her to do all the cooking. I'm perfectly capable of taking out the garbage, and he's perfectly capable of doing kitchen work. There's little need for gender stereotypes in the modern world, most women want a true partner.
I don't care if I do all the cooking, personally. I find it fun, and enjoy it, and do it for myself. Makes no difference to me if I'm doing it for somebody else, personally. I could see if I found it to be a chore, but I like it.
What I hate is grocery shopping. I'm good with making a list of what I need and sending somebody else to get it for me.
But not a deal breaker, a plus because i posted in the "whats for breakfast" forum..I had Thai noodles ,vegetarian salad,And an energy drink...4 days in a row. For breakfast! Creature of habit I am
Show me a long term couple with two people who don't cook, and I'm looking at two fat people (unless they are wealthy enough to eat out at good restaurants). I live in NYC with a tiny kitchen, yet still prepare my own breakfast and dinner everyday without using a microwave or openin a cardboard box. The basics of cooking are neccessary for everyone given just how terrible the US food supply is.
Make no mistake, the ability to cook is a great skill. I am baffled when I see silly feminists disparage the ability to cook. And yes, I am a GREAT cook and proud of it!
I happen to love to cook and my husband really appreciates it. However, there was no cooking prerequisite when we were dating and I only do so when I have time. When I don't have the time, he happily puts together something for dinner although his repertoire is limited but equally tasty or we'll order out.
BTW, despite advances of women in the workplace, the best chefs in the world today are still primarily men. No reason that a man should not know how to cook or put together something. It's not cooking that men looked for in their women, but servitude to the home and family bound by apron strings and diapers.
The reason why top chefs aremostly men isn't because of cooking skills, it's because the road to being a chef is a serious grind. (I mean a real chef, as in the General of the Kitchen. Not a Rachel Ray type, she isn't a chef.) Even if you go to a top culinary school, your start in the business will be grunt work with lots of heavy lifting and burned/cut hands, for minimum wage, 12 hours a day, in 100 degree heat. Not many women can handle that, nor do they want to.
The reason why top chefs aremostly men isn't because of cooking skills, it's because the road to being a chef is a serious grind. (I mean a real chef, aka General of the Kitchen.) Even if you go to a top culinary school, your start in the business will be grunt work with lots of heavy lifting and burned/cut hands, for minimum wage, 12 hours a day, in 100 degree heat. Not many women can handle that, nor do they want to.
If men are better chefs, then why do they still want the woman to cook?
The reason why top chefs aremostly men isn't because of cooking skills, it's because the road to being a chef is a serious grind. (I mean a real chef, as in the General of the Kitchen. Not a Rachel Ray type, she isn't a chef.) Even if you go to a top culinary school, your start in the business will be grunt work with lots of heavy lifting and burned/cut hands, for minimum wage, 12 hours a day, in 100 degree heat. Not many women can handle that, nor do they want to.
I agree with you and would be curious to know the ratio of men to women attending culinary school, however my point was to say that cooking in itself is not the trait associated with a "good" woman, but by association being tethered to the kitchen at home was.
ETA: In rereading my earlier post, I should have taken the word best out and said majority.
If men are better chefs, then why do they still want the woman to cook?
Can you not read? I just said they AREN'T better cooks. Jeez, what has happened to our educational system?
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Would be a plus!
No reason that a man should not know how to cook or put together something. It's not cooking that men looked for in their women, but servitude to the home and family bound by apron strings and diapers.
