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I was looking at the relationship I have with two family members and how they differ. They're both older, and one of them is the type I can walk all over, play practical jokes on, tell her to do things for me, joke about her appearance, etc., and the other I wouldn't even dream of doing those things to. She has the kind of air you don't want to mess with, a very strong demeanor. Is it something you're born with or is it something you earn and has to do with your attitude?
Well, I have to say that if--to use your own words--you are walking all over someone, playing practical jokes on them, barking orders, and saying disparaging things about the way she looks, then that says a lot more about you than it does about her. Sounds like the second person has your number and won't put up with it.
I said she's the type of person I could do those things to, and in the past I have, something I'm not proud of lol, but not anymore. She would put up with it.
I said she's the type of person I could do those things to, and in the past I have, something I'm not proud of lol, but not anymore. She would put up with it.
Well, that person probably has terrible self-esteem, and you have contributed to it.
If you were a person truly sorry about what you've done, I think you should tell her that. That would be an excellent first step towards helping her be strong and self-assured.
Well, that person probably has terrible self-esteem, and you have contributed to it.
If you were a person truly sorry about what you've done, I think you should tell her that. That would be an excellent first step towards helping her be strong and self-assured.
You're right, but when it's really easy to treat a person a certain way because they allow it, sometimes you can't help doing it. But I agree it's not nice, I've matured.
You're right, but when it's really easy to treat a person a certain way because they allow it, sometimes you can't help doing it. But I agree it's not nice, I've matured.
Yes, but if you are even thinking of people in those terms, I'm offering that you haven't matured enough. Even though you haven't acted on it lately, you're saying that you're still mentally dividing the world into those who are pushovers and those who are not. Not a good way to look at humanity.
Maybe the one relative appears "weak" to you because she is not the type to tease/belittle/torment/otherwise abuse another person. And, as a result, she doesn't expect that type of treatment from others. If she had more of a mean streak would she be a stronger person in your eyes?
Maybe the one relative appears "weak" to you because she is not the type to tease/belittle/torment/otherwise abuse another person. And, as a result, she doesn't expect that type of treatment from others. If she had more of a mean streak would she be a stronger person in your eyes?
No. The other relative isn't mean, she just has an air about her that demands more respect. The other one is weaker but I think it has to do with her personality.
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