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But that's backwards thinking. Women aren't actually scary because some men put them on a pedestal. These men are projecting their fears onto unknown women.
As someone who grew up without women and who was painfully shy as a result, the fear can be real, especially if your early attempts, few as they might have been, ended up in disaster. You soon start thinking that nobody will ever find you attractive or want to date you, and those feelings mutate into self-fulfilling prophecies.
As someone who grew up without women and who was painfully shy as a result, the fear can be real, especially if your early attempts, few as they might have been, ended up in disaster. You soon start thinking that nobody will ever find you attractive or want to date you, and those feelings mutate into self-fulfilling prophecies.
That's why I think they should create a "C-D Relationships Emergency Response Team" to offer interventions ...
Everybody tells me I'm lucky I live in a college town and get to see all these beautiful college women every day. But I say it sucks more than they could ever know. I also say that those who say that it's great have no idea what it feels like to be alone and to feel like there's no hope you're ever going to have a date with someone who's attractive to you. I'm attracted to many women, but I'm not going to go out with someone who's 300 pounds. Sorry. I can't date someone who is completely unattractive to me.
Anyhow, those who say I'm lucky I get to see all these beautiful college women all the time are full of it and have no clue what it's like to be alone and have to see all these women all the time in short shorts. I can't wait until winter when they cover up and stay inside !
I gotta get out of this town ! But I can't because I got a job here and I burned all my bridges elsewhere. Man, I'm a dumb man.
I hate to break it to you loverboy but even 300 pound women wont go out with a guy with no self esteem!
Good points. I did get a diagnosis of Asperger's, but it was not from a doctor that I trust. Before that he was convinced I had bipolar disorder, but then he changed it over to Asperger's and never said the word bipolar disorder again. He also thought I was "possibly an idiot savant with highly developed math skills," but he didn't realize I scored higher on my verbal SAT than on my math. So, needless to say, eventually I got a little smarter and found a different psychiatrist. He just said I had depression. But eventually I got tired of taking Prozac and so I got him to withdraw me from prozac and then I quit going in. Then, a few months later I stopped seeing my social worker too because I wasn't cooperating with any of his suggestions. All that was about 7 years ago. I haven't seen a therapist since. I've been okay for the most part, until this year. So now I'm thinking I really ought to go see a therapist again. Maybe I'll have better luck this time.
But sorry for using the word Asperger's. I'll stop. I don't trust that diagnosis at all.
Davros, when you DO go to see a new therapist, perhaps it would be helpful to print out your posts here on City-Data and have the therapist read them. It could give him or her an insight which might prove helpful. Best of luck to you.
Everybody tells me I'm lucky I live in a college town and get to see all these beautiful college women every day. But I say it sucks more than they could ever know. I also say that those who say that it's great have no idea what it feels like to be alone and to feel like there's no hope you're ever going to have a date with someone who's attractive to you. I'm attracted to many women, but I'm not going to go out with someone who's 300 pounds. Sorry. I can't date someone who is completely unattractive to me.
Anyhow, those who say I'm lucky I get to see all these beautiful college women all the time are full of it and have no clue what it's like to be alone and have to see all these women all the time in short shorts. I can't wait until winter when they cover up and stay inside !
I gotta get out of this town ! But I can't because I got a job here and I burned all my bridges elsewhere. Man, I'm a dumb man.
Hey man pull yourself together and get a grip....What is it about you that makes you feel that you could not have one of those attractive women...
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But I can't because I got a job here and I burned all my bridges elsewhere. Man, I'm a dumb man. 
