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Thinking about it I will give a compliment to swingers for the fact that they know themselves and it is good to know yourself. Although in this case knowing yourself is realizing your short comings of being incapable of 100% commitment to one person but the explanations given by some swingers here is that they are somehow enlightened when really I think they want to believe that instead instead of facing they just are incapable of commitment and devotion to one person.
They want to believe people generally can't commit to one person to establish there view or style as enlightened but the fact is other people can, swingers just can't.
I am currently seeing a woman who I do have feelings, feelings I haven't felt in a while but she has some emotional issues that make me think she might not be good for a long term relationship and would bring me down and one thing she has told me is how her parents had a open marriage and how it messed with her head as a kid as well as her sister.
She calls her parents disfunctional, and it has effected her life and is now effecting mine. I like to think she could over come these bad feelings and I would like to think I could help her and feel inner happiness even if her future isn't with me but it is a long shot that will probably end in her not overcoming these issues and I ending up heart broke.
Commitment is emotional, not physical. Tomorrow, my wife could have the most mind-blowing sex she's ever had, with someone she has, as of now, not even met. But when it's over, she's still coming home with me. THAT is what's important, not the idea that no other human is allowed to please her vagina.
I disagree. I suppose physical and emotional pain are different also? I am here to tell you they can hurt deeply equally.
Indeed, they CAN both hurt deeply, but there is, in fact, a difference between physical and emotional pain. The pain from a broken heart is much different than the pain from a broken arm.
Indeed, they CAN both hurt deeply, but there is, in fact, a difference between physical and emotional pain. The pain from a broken heart is much different than the pain from a broken arm.
Between you and me, I'd rather take the broken arm any day.
Even the threat of a broken heart has made me cry uncontrollably. I walked around for a week with two broken fingers though.
Commitment is emotional, not physical. Tomorrow, my wife could have the most mind-blowing sex she's ever had, with someone she has, as of now, not even met. But when it's over, she's still coming home with me. THAT is what's important, not the idea that no other human is allowed to please her vagina.
Physical and emotional are different.
I try to be nonjudgmental, I really do, but this is twisted beyond belief - imho. If my wife wants to have mind-blowing sex with some other man, she certainly can, but she can't stay married to me. I ain't sharing her with anyone else.
For those of you who may not know, a "key party" is when a group of several married couples get together and have a party, and at the end of the night, the husbands all place their keys into a large box or somthing similar. The wives then pick a set of keys out of the box and whoevers keys they have is the man that they will go home with on that particular night. I beleive these "parties" were mostly popular in the 60's and 70's.
Do these types of things still happen today? Have you ever been to one?
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Wonder why they had to go through so much trouble just to sleep with someone else's spouse but again, it was the 60s/70s so..
ROFLMAO.
Sorry, but when they built the Sun City Retirement Community down the road from us, it was all quiet.. until the introduction of Viagra. Suddenly there were all sorts of deputy calls there, as women walked in on their husbands, having sex with "younger women" (55+) in their homes! These incidents quickly expanded to key parties, they were considered the norm not the exception. There were a lot of resentful men AND women who got stuck on the wrong end of these relationships, and who would indulge in domestic violence.
My BF is a guy, and we have frequently been thought of as a couple. At a very high-end business Christmas party, we met a younger couple who were in a business that complemented ours. We had a lovely evening, and they invited us to their potluck Christmas Party the following weekend. "Bring your spouse!" they both said, winking. We did - we brought both our spouses. There was a lot of wide-eyed commentary (my DH has always been broad-chested and powerful-looking, and women have fawned over him for years, his wife is a tiny lil redheaded darlin') but it seemed like a normal party.
But my BF and I kept cutting our eyes at each other as the night progressed and people started sliding against each other and us more and more aggressively, with references to the hot tub, etc. My DH picked up on it immediately, but we actually had to leave and get lil redhead outside to tell her what was going on..."EEEUUUWWW!!!" she shrieked. That was the end of THAT, TG. We left there laughing uproariously at their grotesquely childish behavior.
This couple had three little boys (all under 10)who were very much involved in the party with the adults, appeared to not only be aware of what was going on but seemed to expect to participate in it, and that gave us the creeps too. Later this guy and his wife tried numerous times to get us involved with them in business, but we would not - and he later ended up going bankrupt and being foreclosed on. We had no sympathy; we wanted nothing to do with them. In our opinion, their self-indulgence was a major factor in their downfall.
DH and I, nor BF and his wife, would never participate in such a thing. Our emotions are reserved for the people we love, sex is not an animalistic game to us, where "no one gets hurt" - it is an expression of love, caring, yes, and mischievous fun, as well as a chance to be ourselves, lock the world out while locking ourselves in, too. Sex means intimacy as well as pleasure to us. And no we wouldn't even swap with each other! - to quote lil darlin "EEEUUWWW!" Nothing would kill our friendships built on mutual respect, trust, and co-operative business relationships faster. Those who indulge in such can pretend all they want to a superior emotional and physically accepting attitude, if it makes them feel better about themselves - but the truth is that most people with truly adult relationships know how lucky they are to have someone who knows them most intimately - and doesn't tell a soul.
Yuck yuck and yuck! Doing my friends husband is like doing my own brother. GROSTESQUE to the 10th degree!! Now if he was Christian Bale then maybe, just maybe I might make a one time exception.
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