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My wife and I have been married for 30 years already, and we speak to each other on the telephone once or twice a day whenever we can. It feels real nice when she calls me, and I sincerely hope that she feels the same way I do when she hears my voice. And yes, we talk on the telephone on break time
In my view, the OP is not asking very much of her husband. By now he should know that calling her, even to say hello, would make her happy.
the sad truth is he knows, but he just doesn't do it....what to do? what to think? i told him his phone calls make me happy and that i like him to call and he still doesn't do it....
he's a bf, not hb
and im so envious of your relaitonship with your wife, i hope i can be one day with someone like that.
the sad truth is he knows, but he just doesn't do it....what to do? what to think? i told him his phone calls make me happy and that i like him to call and he still doesn't do it....
he's a bf, not hb
and im so envious of your relaitonship with your wife, i hope i can be one day with someone like that.
Calling is very important for me, too! When we were at the beginning of our relationship, my husband and I would speak about 3 or 4 times a day on the phone, especially since we both had a very busy schedule and there were days we couldn't see eachother. I did most of the calling, there were days when he didn't call me and when I complained he would say that it is because I call him anyway. We did have some arguments about this. For me calling was an important, yet easy thing to do and I couldn't understand why he would not do something that he knew made me happy.
Then I realised it was not because he didn't love me, but because he was indeed very busy (he had days when he finished work around midnight) and sometimes I didn't exactly give him the chance to call because I would call him.
Not sure if I am making to much sense, but have you tried not calling him until he calls you (even if it takes a few days). This way when he finally calls, you will see if he is bothered that you didn't keep in touch or if he thinks it is normal to have less contact. Since you don't live together, and I suppose you don't meet every day, maybe this will be a way for you to know if he is the kind of guy who doesn't need constant connection (which would mean there is nothing wrong with the relationship, he just sees things different), or he does need it but he knows you will make in anyway so he lets you do it (which, in my opinion means that he is taking you for granted a little).
I do agree that he should have called you at least once a day, but guys do think differently...
Calling is very important for me, too! When we were at the beginning of our relationship, my husband and I would speak about 3 or 4 times a day on the phone, especially since we both had a very busy schedule and there were days we couldn't see eachother. I did most of the calling, there were days when he didn't call me and when I complained he would say that it is because I call him anyway. We did have some arguments about this. For me calling was an important, yet easy thing to do and I couldn't understand why he would not do something that he knew made me happy.
Then I realised it was not because he didn't love me, but because he was indeed very busy (he had days when he finished work around midnight) and sometimes I didn't exactly give him the chance to call because I would call him.
Not sure if I am making to much sense, but have you tried not calling him until he calls you (even if it takes a few days). This way when he finally calls, you will see if he is bothered that you didn't keep in touch or if he thinks it is normal to have less contact. Since you don't live together, and I suppose you don't meet every day, maybe this will be a way for you to know if he is the kind of guy who doesn't need constant connection (which would mean there is nothing wrong with the relationship, he just sees things different), or he does need it but he knows you will make in anyway so he lets you do it (which, in my opinion means that he is taking you for granted a little).
I do agree that he should have called you at least once a day, but guys do think differently...
thanks very much for the input and understanding where i stand. i dont think he's all that busy cause he's on vacation with his daughter in DC. and i ususally dont call unless i dont hear from him. he has always been the one making most calls.....
thanks very much for the input and understanding where i stand. i dont think he's all that busy cause he's on vacation with his daughter in DC. and i ususally dont call unless i dont hear from him. he has always been the one making most calls.....
Oh, ok, I get it! If he usually calls you maybe this time, being with his daughter, he really wanted to concentrate on her. Is she very young -as in she requiers a lot of attention so by the end of the day he is exhausted? Regardless, one 2 minutes phone call at the end of the day shouldn't be that hard to do...
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