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bf is not diligent about making phone calls. i've told him clearly that phone calls are important to me when we're not together, that i expect one call every day.
so he went to DC last week, didn't call everyday either. so he's coming back tomorrow and i was expecting him to call tonight to tell me what time he will be arriving etc. it's been a week and i do miss him.
he didn't call, and just sent a simple text" miss you". i called him right after receiving the text and he said he's ready for bed that's why he didn't call.
i couldnt hold it and complained (cause on our previous call, he asked me if i could do bj for him when he's back i jokingly said no if you forget to call again and he promised he will call), he got mad saying it's late oever there( time difference) that im rude to call him and complain.
i'm just deeply disappointed, to me, it's just about how much effort one person 'is willing to put to make the other person happy.
is the relationship a good one when getting a phone call is too much to ask? or that i do ask too much?
In a relationship that is mature builton respect, honesty and integrity as most relationships should be based on?
It is not too much to ask for a call once a day especially if the relationship has been established...It is not being a baby, having over the top expectations, nor a sense of entitlement..
It is a check in..i.e. "Yoday I had a great time, hung out with fam and friends, missed you though.."
I am what you call a low maint. easy going laid back type and I would do this for my man..and I expect the same in kind..Just a call to say the days events and when they would be back and make plans to se each other..
I hate all day texts, they are not needed but a call once a day makes you feel connected period...
bf is not diligent about making phone calls. i've told him clearly that phone calls are important to me when we're not together, that i expect one call every day.
i'm just deeply disappointed, to me, it's just about how much effort one person 'is willing to put to make the other person happy.
is the relationship a good one when getting a phone call is too much to ask? or that i do ask too much?
I thought a relationship was a 2 way street. If you are so interested in speaking to him everyday, how about if you call him? I don't think your demand that he call you everyday is reasonable - it's a demand. As a guy, if a girlfriend demanded I do this, I would feel she is insecure, controlling and doesn't trust me when we're apart. Big turn offs. Have you ever heard of the notion that with distance, the heart grows fonder? In other words have a couple of days between calls and you may miss each more.
In a relationship that is mature builton respect, honesty and integrity as most relationships should be based on?
It is not too much to ask for a call once a day especially if the relationship has been established...It is not being a baby, having over the top expectations, nor a sense of entitlement..
It is a check in..i.e. "Yoday I had a great time, hung out with fam and friends, missed you though.."
I am what you call a low maint. easy going laid back type and I would do this for my man..and I expect the same in kind..Just a call to say the days events and when they would be back and make plans to se each other..
I hate all day texts, they are not needed but a call once a day makes you feel connected period...
exactly, it's the call that make me feel connected.
I thought a relationship was a 2 way street. If you are so interested in speaking to him everyday, how about if you call him? I don't think your demand that he call you everyday is reasonable - it's a demand. As a guy, if a girlfriend demanded I do this, I would feel she is insecure, controlling and doesn't trust me when we're apart. Big turn offs. Have you ever heard of the notion that with distance, the heart grows fonder? In other words have a couple of days between calls and you may miss each more.
i do call him when he doesnt call, but since he's coming back tomorrow i thought he would call to tell me more details.
i thought telling him to call me is just being straightfoward with him about what i want, as i heard guys don't read minds. and since we've been together for over 1 year now, i would not stand not hear from each other for days.
exactly, it's the call that make me feel connected.
And YOU are not for wanting this...this is validation to a budding relationship..you did your part, he stated he would and did not..
If I were you ( Because I cannot tell you what to do) I would make him aware of this..."put the shoe on the other foot so to speak"
And if he is ok not hearing from you when you are away? I would start re evaluating my contirbution compared to his when it comes to open dialogue...it is is not that complicated...
Honestly...everyone has to eat, take a **** and a **** sometime..send a text or a call and tell someone you are thjinking of them...BUT never beg for it..why? Because YOU are better than this and one man who does not? Another will do because it comes natural..
since when being independent equals being indifferent?
It isn't.
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