Women: Have you ever been "picked up" on the street? (wife, love)
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They flirted...but that was it. Just the other day I had this guy flirt with me at the grocery store. We were looking over ground beef. And made some jokes and how the grocery store had buy one get one free but was cleaned out.
Ahh, the grocery store. I used to run into this same guy at the grocery store now and then since it was near both our houses. I knew he was single and that's about it. We were in the checkout line, myself behind him, and he pulled out one of those huge 12 rolls of toilet paper packages and I just couldn't resist, 'Big weekend planned?" He started laughing and did invite me over for a small BBQ and the rest was dating history.
I did it once in Belgrade. I was at the crosswalk and people were coming from the other direction and this man and I looked at each other and smiled. I chuckled a bit as I could tell that I blushed and turned around to look at him and when I did, I found him turned around and looking back at me, too. Welll, he did a U turn and crossed back onto my side of the street, and we began a conversation. He asked me to go for coffee (outdoor cafes are everywhere) and I did, and it was a nice couple of hours. But since I was leaving to go back home in two days, nothing came of it. Now, would I do that in America?? Probably not!
I'm trying to understand why some men try to pick up dates out in public and whether or not that actually works. I'm not talking about quick sexual harassment/catcalling but when a guy actually accosts you for your name and phone number or asks if they can "get to know you". Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
So ladies, have you ever actually decided to go out with a guy you "met" five seconds ago? If so, did it go well?
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Ahh, the grocery store. I used to run into this same guy at the grocery store now and then since it was near both our houses. I knew he was single and that's about it. We were in the checkout line, myself behind him, and he pulled out one of those huge 12 rolls of toilet paper packages and I just couldn't resist, 'Big weekend planned?" He started laughing and did invite me over for a small BBQ and the rest was dating history.
I tried the same line with a lady in the grocery store - she had a double-pack of Monistat 7.
I don't understand when women say, "I won't...it's too risky because I don't even know the guy." Nobody is telling you to go straight to his apartment, you're obviously going to have a drink or coffee out in public and where's the harm in that? If anything, you get to meet someone new and hopefully have a good time. Everyone's a stranger before you get to know them. I've done it and it's never really developed into anything serious, but I've had a good time and one of those times a guy did pick me up on the street turned out to be the one of the best times I've ever had. Unfortunately, I was abroad and it couldn't develop into anything further.
I don't understand when women say, "I won't...it's too risky because I don't even know the guy." Nobody is telling you to go straight to his apartment, you're obviously going to have a drink or coffee out in public and where's the harm in that? If anything, you get to meet someone new and hopefully have a good time. Everyone's a stranger before you get to know them. I've done it and it's never really developed into anything serious, but I've had a good time and one of those times a guy did pick me up on the street turned out to be the one of the best times I've ever had. Unfortunately, I was abroad and it couldn't develop into anything further.
That makes me wonder whether the "art" of street pick-ups is far more alive and well in Europe than in the US, because of the stronger emphasis on street-level living. Would you say that where you were was more like an American Main Street from 1948, with stores, shops and people buzzing around, rather than the segregated and separated super-boxes that we call "shopping" now?
And if so, is there now a specific set of rules to follow for mall pick-ups?
I believe that interacting with people in the flesh every day gives one a certain fluidity with social intercourse. Interacting with them electronically blunts that ability. If you are more comfortable among people in general, you'll have an easier time being picked-up on the street.
Yes, I have. I didn't/don't think anything of it. No different than being hit on by an unfamiliar guy at a bar or club. I'm always flattered even if I'm not interested in the man who may have approached me.
That makes me wonder whether the "art" of street pick-ups is far more alive and well in Europe than in the US, because of the stronger emphasis on street-level living. Would you say that where you were was more like an American Main Street from 1948, with stores, shops and people buzzing around, rather than the segregated and separated super-boxes that we call "shopping" now?
And if so, is there now a specific set of rules to follow for mall pick-ups?
I believe that interacting with people in the flesh every day gives one a certain fluidity with social intercourse. Interacting with them electronically blunts that ability. If you are more comfortable among people in general, you'll have an easier time being picked-up on the street.
Just a theory ...
Tough to say... I would think women who are more socialized would have an easier time protecting themselves from being picked up on the street because they would be more in-tuned to social situations and be able to pick up on incongruencies by the pick-up dude... then again not many women are "used" to being talked to by strangers on the street so I doubt any type of socializing can prepare someone for talking to a stranger like that. It's probably a wash.
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Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
